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Losing Virginity Stories

How Did You Lose Your Virginity?

When it comes to losing our virginity, men and women are not that different. Whether one waits emphatically, completes it like homework, or revels in its loss has little to do with gender.

Instead it depends on which of the following three categories — outlined in Virginity Lost: An Intimate Portrait of our First Sexual Experiences — you fall into. "Gifters" hold virginity up on a pedestal, believing it's something precious to be saved, and the "stigmatized" see it as a burden, something that's to be crossed off life's checklist. "Processors" probably have the healthiest attitude: they see first-time sex as something to be experienced — one of many experiences to come.

Writer Kate Monro has been documenting virginity-lost stories for nearly a year on her site The Virginity Project. From the mundane to the unbelievable, she collects every story she hears.

Ready to tell yours? We've asked where you lost your virginity and who you lost it to, but never for the full story. Remember you can you always sign out and post it anonymously below!

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Lila69 Lila69 2 years
Mine is really sleazy,I had sex for the first time pushed up somebodies car with our pants our ankles,we left a huge dent in their passengers door and dried cum after we were finished we pulled up our pants and ran for it d= it wasn't hot but it felt really great
idk329 idk329 4 years
my first time was not like this @ all...it didn't even work! i was 18 he had been fingering me too long & it started to hurt. when he tried to get inside me i was like swollen shut or something, it just wasn't working! it was horrible...then he thought i needed to be stretched so he stuck 3 fingers in me and i was piiiiiiissed it killed. i'm pretty sure i tore during his finger action...but we kept tryin lube, anything to get it in me. we finally gave up, and just cuddled and laughed about it. the next day we tried again and everything worked beautifully. although my 1st time sucked, i'm glad i was with someone that we could laugh about it together. we r still together.
Venus1 Venus1 5 years
Fair comment. OK could have expressed my previous post much better. I apologise. x
amber512 amber512 5 years
curious*
amber512 amber512 5 years
curious*
amber512 amber512 5 years
I'm curiou, why does one need something to compare it to? I'm very happy with my decision to wait and I like that my husband is the only person I have been with. I don't begrudge anyone else for making different choices, and I wouldn't want anyone to judge me (or someone like me) for my own.
amber512 amber512 5 years
I'm curiou, why does one need something to compare it to? I'm very happy with my decision to wait and I like that my husband is the only person I have been with. I don't begrudge anyone else for making different choices, and I wouldn't want anyone to judge me (or someone like me) for my own.
Venus1 Venus1 5 years
and you comparison is with what exactly?
Venus1 Venus1 5 years
15th birthday. It was planned like a military operation and I'm now 33 and no regrets.
lauraxtc lauraxtc 5 years
13 with a guy I regret giving it to. UGH!!!!!
lauraxtc lauraxtc 5 years
13 with a guy I regret giving it to. UGH!!!!!
weffie weffie 5 years
Drunk with one of my best buddies when we were 15. Upstairs in his room while a house party raged below. Not an amazing experience, but comfortable and fun nonetheless. I wasn't necessarily in a hurry to lose my virginity, but I didn't have any regrets about it... We lived in a small town, it was just something to do :)
weffie weffie 5 years
Drunk with one of my best buddies when we were 15. Upstairs in his room while a house party raged below. Not an amazing experience, but comfortable and fun nonetheless. I wasn't necessarily in a hurry to lose my virginity, but I didn't have any regrets about it... We lived in a small town, it was just something to do :)
amber512 amber512 5 years
I was 23 and it happened on my wedding night. I didn't hold it up on a pedastal or think I was worth more than anyone else. I simply wanted it to be something that happened just between my husband and I. He was not a virgin when we met, but he knew that it was really important to me to wait. And I'm really glad that I did. While the way I did it might not work for everyone, it was definitely the right choice for me.
amber512 amber512 5 years
I was 23 and it happened on my wedding night. I didn't hold it up on a pedastal or think I was worth more than anyone else. I simply wanted it to be something that happened just between my husband and I. He was not a virgin when we met, but he knew that it was really important to me to wait. And I'm really glad that I did.While the way I did it might not work for everyone, it was definitely the right choice for me.
kels19 kels19 5 years
i was a cross between a gifter and a processor. i didn't hold my virginity on a pedestal, but i didn't want to give it to someone i didn't care about. i ended up having my first time at 14 with my boyfriend of 2 months. his parents were in the next room watching tv, which definitely made it more of a processing moment. we just were tired of waiting i guess. i don't regret it at all though, and i'm still with the guy today.
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