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Lovemaking: How Long Should It Last?

Sometimes we're in the mood for long lovemaking sessions, but other times we're all about the quickies. So is there a certain amount of time that's considered normal? Take this quiz and see.

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Lovemaking: How Long Should It Last?

Sex therapists say that sex should last for how long (not including foreplay)?

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MissSushi MissSushi 7 years
i like a couple quickies, i echo that once it gets past like 15 minutes it starts drying up and im starting to drift mentally. We usually spend a LOT of time on foreplay though, since this is just the actual act of intercourse at speculation here
AlexE70 AlexE70 7 years
I'm not rolling over unless it's going to last at least 20 minutes! LOL!
Nyrina-Windu Nyrina-Windu 7 years
Wow, I was wrong on both. I think the need another survey, or am I giving the men too much credit on how long I think they actually go.
opisnowpro opisnowpro 7 years
In my opinion very long sessions are boring unless if it is a "special occasion", for me on regular days 10- 15 minutes are o.k.....
designerel designerel 7 years
sometimes my guy can last longer (like +30 min.), sometimes it takes a few minutes. it has nothing to do with him taking care of business beforehand either. it's just really weird and inconsistent.if it's one of those longer sessions though, it just gets painful!
designerel designerel 7 years
sometimes my guy can last longer (like +30 min.), sometimes it takes a few minutes. it has nothing to do with him taking care of business beforehand either. it's just really weird and inconsistent. if it's one of those longer sessions though, it just gets painful!
thelorax thelorax 7 years
**scowl**
thelorax thelorax 7 years
**scowl**
Hootie Hootie 7 years
Hmmmmmmm...
LolaDub LolaDub 7 years
LOL.. wow just 3 to 13 minutes?
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 7 years
Ha! I knew it. I hate when women brag about how long it lasted if he's going that long it's not always good sex. One of my male friends said that he's had sex for 8 hours. No way since he can't even walk across the house without getting winded.
letterkpancake letterkpancake 7 years
wow, that surprises me. but somedays 7.3 are all i have to give to my fiance.
AVA-MARiE AVA-MARiE 7 years
7.3 mins sounds good to me. I think we usually go a bit longer. My fiance to me, seems under the impression that longer is better, but I think that a lot of guys don't understand that the fluids run a little low if you take too long -- which makes for a pretty painful post-sex experience. The longest my man and I have gone is around 30 mins, any longer than that, and I would get so bored and frustrated to the point of tears. Sometimes when we have sex, and 15 minutes is coming up, I'm like UGH, can you just get it over with already? Haha.
bransugar79 bransugar79 7 years
I personally think the whole thing is silly. I mean as long as you like it who cares how lon git goes/ I personally like it to go on for a while I don't get bored with intercourse at all. I also haven't ever seen the point in quickies. I'd rather be a few minutes late and fully satisfied than to start but not finish. And honestly 7.3 minutes is much shorter than our average time and that's not about bragging it's just true. Why does anyone feel the need to normalize or standardize lovemaking, it's supposed to be fun
Silverlining10 Silverlining10 7 years
My boyfriend told me about this research a few weeks ago. Apparently, women prefer 10-13 minutes, and if it gets drawn out, they end up getting bored. I think younger men can go longer, but they also tire out and have difficulty performing more later. Long sessions are also bad for female lubrication...that stuff actually does start running low.
Beastiegirl5 Beastiegirl5 7 years
To be honest the whole 45 minutes is waaay overrated (I'm not counting foreplay here.) My rule of thumb- both of us should be satisfied. Oh, and after I'm done, you should finish up pretty soon afterwards. Then we can go again later. But really, the whole idea of going at it for ages like that- sounds painful and a bit like someone's just looking for bragging rights.
zajanatural zajanatural 7 years
We can't take this as gold and run with it though. The survey took 50 people and did a survey. Those 50 cannot represent the entire world. That is a rather small sample. I say make the best of the sex you have, and stop looking or thinking about how long it will last for, and enjoy it while it lasts:)
sunlandseagirl sunlandseagirl 7 years
I COMPLETELY agree with your point Meikie. To set one "normal" or "healthy" time is like saying every single human being on this earth has the exact same anatomy,needs,sensitivity etc. ...not buying it..infact that is totally LAMEE!!
Meike Meike 7 years
"Fifty members of the Society for Sex Therapy and Research in the U.S. and Canada were surveyed by Corty, an associate professor of psychology at Penn State Erie, The Behrend College, and student Jenay Guardiani. Thirty-four members, or 68 percent, responded, although some said the optimal time depended on the couple." Yeah, really, utterly scientific. First off, I think I'll go with the some that said 'the optimal time depended on the couple.' Second, not all men are build anatomically equal. I'm sure there are some men who can't last more than 2 minutes at the mere thought of sex while others may have to do a lot more during sex to get off. Some women can achieve a vaginal orgasm because they're just that sensitive inside. I can't. I need clitoral stimulation. So, who's to say a penis' sensitivity can't vary from man to man? If it takes a man 45 minutes to get off, awesome. If it takes a man 2 minutes to get off, that's awesome, too. Everyone's sexual chemistry is different. There is no 'optimal'. Some sex therapists make me laugh.
Meike Meike 7 years
"Fifty members of the Society for Sex Therapy and Research in the U.S. and Canada were surveyed by Corty, an associate professor of psychology at Penn State Erie, The Behrend College, and student Jenay Guardiani. Thirty-four members, or 68 percent, responded, although some said the optimal time depended on the couple."Yeah, really, utterly scientific.First off, I think I'll go with the some that said 'the optimal time depended on the couple.' Second, not all men are build anatomically equal. I'm sure there are some men who can't last more than 2 minutes at the mere thought of sex while others may have to do a lot more during sex to get off. Some women can achieve a vaginal orgasm because they're just that sensitive inside. I can't. I need clitoral stimulation. So, who's to say a penis' sensitivity can't vary from man to man? If it takes a man 45 minutes to get off, awesome. If it takes a man 2 minutes to get off, that's awesome, too. Everyone's sexual chemistry is different. There is no 'optimal'. Some sex therapists make me laugh.
Marci Marci 7 years
I just read an article that said that quicker sex makes for more frequent sex. I don't know how they decided upon that, but they said that 13 minutes is the perfect average. Sounds good to me!
Marci Marci 7 years
I just read an article that said that quicker sex makes for more frequent sex. I don't know how they decided upon that, but they said that 13 minutes is the perfect average. Sounds good to me!
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