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Lying About the Number of People You Slept With

Sunday Confessional: I Lied About My "Number"

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I told my bf I only slept with 5 people. It's really around 10. At least I was half-truthful!



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dikke-kus dikke-kus 5 years
What if you only slept with three guys but they each had slept with fifty women? What if you slept with 20 guys and each of them was a virgin? What if you slept with five women, and three guys? Do you count in the women? What if you were married and slept with the same guy for five years every day? Is that more attractive than someone who had a five boyfriends a year for few months at a time? What if you were really fat and ugly so you never slept with anyone else becuase no one wanted you? What if a handsome millionaire came along and he was going to make the number increase to 12? Would you turn him down becuase a future boyfriened thought only 11 was OK? What a joke.
GlitzyGlam GlitzyGlam 5 years
Just tell every guy form here on out 5 or less. Guys usually like to think they are more experienced in the sack anyways. I don't know why, they just like to think they are the best or something. Plus if it's more than he's been with then he will think he's not experienced enough so his mind might start to wonder and feel self conscience about himself.
honeylocs honeylocs 5 years
I wouldn't worry about it. You gave him an answer, let it suffice :)
nothingwrong nothingwrong 5 years
All girls in general are not sluts! These women on here are saying what is the point in asking because the "number factor" is just a judgement point. If my boyfriend asks me what is my number, regardless of how high or low it is, I will know automatically something is wrong with the way he views our relationship. The reason I say this is because I know a man will never want to think of "his lady" being in bed with anyone before him, let alone however many that may have come before him! Having one sexual partner is enough to catch AIDS or any other STD from. It has nothing to do with Sluttiness. One man sleeps around in one town for one month, do you know how many people he could infect with HIV? Didn't think so. The number question is something that should be left unasked, not only because it makes women look bad (makes men look bad too, by the way), but because it can be hurtful, and at best it is an immature gauge of someone you are supposed to care about.
GregS GregS 5 years
Betty - Wink, wink, nudge, nudge, say no more!
Sundown321 Sundown321 5 years
I think it's not someone's business to a degree... but remember, this person is sleeping with you. A high number can lead to the "get tested" talk. Or, as mentioned by GregS, maybe they are trying to understand your level of experience. I had a friend who lied about her age and her way of defending it was saying "He didn't say: how many people have you slept with, total?"
Bettye-Wayne Bettye-Wayne 5 years
Oh no, *my* number isn't forty (still less than ten!), I was just saying, there's really no reason to lie and say your number is 5 if your number is 10, it's not that many. Once I get serious I ask a guy, for the same reason I ask what his childhood was like or if he believes in God or what his favorite flavor of ice-cream is: because I want to know all about him. I would feel offended if someone I was seeing casually asked me, that seems like too personal of a detail to share with someone I'm not seriously committed to.
stephley stephley 5 years
On the one hand, it's nobody's business, but on the other, why lie? If you don't want to admit what you do/have done, maybe you should reconsider doing it.
GregS GregS 5 years
There's a reason a guy would ask this question, just like there's a reason you'd ask him. Amazingly, it's the same. It indicates experience and can guide him in his actions. 5 or 10 is not relavant. 5 says you probably know what you're doing. If it was 1 or 2, maybe not so much. If it was 40 like Betty, well... ;) Betty's just a firebrand!
skigurl skigurl 5 years
maybe it's not really his business but she did lie unnecesarily me and my man have the same number so i'm good with that
Venus1 Venus1 5 years
It's nothing to do with him.
mix-tape mix-tape 5 years
Numbers are irrelevant. Avoid answering. Or like in your case, divide by 2.
Blackwood Blackwood 5 years
I don't understand all this "number" frenzy people seem to have in USA... I never heard anyone of any other country "counting" and asking people their "number"... what's the point of knowing that? If you're worried about diseases, you should get tested and be safe... plus, I hate how some people ask their partner and then get all jealous or judgemental afterwards... why ask something you really don't want to know?
staceyny35 staceyny35 5 years
It's no one's business but your owns.
Sundaydrive Sundaydrive 5 years
I've never had this discussion come up in a relationship. I don't think its something I would answer if it did. I don't want to know how many girls my bf as slept with in the past. Its not important now, and won't be in the future. I have a friend who always discusses numbers with his girlfriends. I just find it weird.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 5 years
I'm in the camp that it's private, and nobody else's business, especially if it's in my past (a closed chapter that has no present relevance). I value the idea of don't kiss and tell, and keeping all aspects of that private. JMHO.
kismekate kismekate 5 years
It's really nobody's business. I think that when I was younger I cared - but at my age if someone asks me I find it really immature of them.
amber512 amber512 5 years
Makes me glad my husband is my one and only! Makes the "number" question pretty pointless!
totygoliguez totygoliguez 5 years
"At least I was half true," made me laugh! I agree with frenchkiss. That something that should not be asked and should not be answered. It just brings insecurities to the table.
postmodernsleaze postmodernsleaze 5 years
I agree French Kiss, I think it's a pointless question to ask and a pointless question to answer. We all have a past, so just leave it there. But, for some reason, some people really like to know that about their partner. Even if nothing bad comes out of asking, has anyone ever gotten anything good to come by asking that question?
French-Kiss French-Kiss 5 years
Yeah, or maybe we should just tell about the ones that was really worth it for us ? Because there have been the mistakes, the 1rst good impression gone bad, etc... ^^
danakscully64 danakscully64 5 years
I can't remember exactly how the joke goes, but it's something like "Whatever number the girl tells, double it to find the true number. For guys, cut what they say in half." :P Personally, I don't understand the point in lying about it. If you were really ashamed about the number of partners you've been with, you never would have had that many in the first place. It's not that big of a deal, I don't think guys care unless the number really starts to climb.
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