Living with a sexually unfulfilled relationship isn't just for couples who've been married for 30 years, according to a recent article on CNN.com — even new couples and those recently married are experiencing a boring or nonexistent sex life. So why is that?
There are actually several reasons why. One is that we are so marriage crazed that while dating, we tend to overlook warning signs of incompatibility. We also think that great sex will come later, when you love the person more. Also, some women tend to think that passion will inevitably fade away after time, so they look for someone who would make a good father or a handy and responsible husband over a passionate partner. They ignore their own desires and choose an okay lover, thinking that it's impossible to find someone who can fulfill them in every way.
If you're in a relationship, and everything is great, except for the sex, then
If your sex life is so-so, now is the time to do something about it. Talk to your partner about how you're feeling. Together, try to figure out ways you can spice things up in the bedroom. You can also try exciting things outside of the bedroom, like skydiving or horseback riding — doing things that get your heart pumping will trigger the brain's dopamine centers and could increase desire. You may also think about seeing a sex therapist to suggest ways to rekindle the fire.
Unfortunately the numbers don't lie — therapists estimate that one out of every five couples has sex less than 10 times a year. Could you live with a relationship like that? Tell me in the comment section below.