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Meeting the Family

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Hey everyone, my best friend is a member of this site and she suggested I ask you all for advice. I have been dating my boyfriend for about nine months and everything is going great. A few days ago while on our mini vacation for Winter break he told me he thought it was time for me to meet his parents, sister, brother, and "little" brother (not really his brother but a boy he has become like a big brother to). When he asked me this I was shocked because his best friend told me he has never had a girlfriend meet his family, not even his ex-girlfriend who he was with for a year while he lived at home.

Knowing he wants me to meet his family has made me both extremely happy and extremely nervous. I have never met the family of a boyfriend before and I am terrified that they won’t like me. I talked to my boyfriend about this and told him I was scared they would think I wasn’t good enough for him. He said I was crazy and he knew they would love me like he does. But my boyfriend is incredible, and it wouldn’t be the first time someone has told me I don’t deserve him. Five months ago a girl got my number off a volunteer list he signed us up for and left a voicemail on my phone listing over 10 reasons I wasn’t good enough for him. A few reasons on her list were that he was only 24 and already had a master’s degree while I was 19 (at the time) and in college, he already has a career and volunteers with numerous organizations. She basically listed all the great things he has done and does for the community, and said that he deserves someone who is just as great as him. At the time this really strained our relationship because I always felt like he was going to leave me for someone better. We worked it out and he was able to reassure me that he loves me and that I am the one he wants.

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Anyway, I am going to meet them on Saturday night at my boyfriend’s house and he and I are going to cook dinner, and I was wondering if you all could give me some advice on meeting the family. How should I dress, what should I talk about, etc. I know these are probably silly questions, but I really want them to like me because I know that his family is extremely important to him. I am not saying that if they don’t like me he will break up with me but I know if they didn’t like me it would be difficult for him. Also do you have any tips to help me calm my nerves? Thank you in advance for any advice.

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