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Millionaire Matchmaker Patti Stanger Breaks Off Engagement Over Non-Negotiables

What Are Your Non-Negotiables?

Millionaire Matchmaker's Patti Stanger will be putting her dating rules and advice to good use — for her own love life, after recently announcing her breakup to real estate executive Andy Friedman via Twitter, saying:

"I just ended my relationship with Andy. It hit me really hard that I want kids in my life. You have to agree on the non-negotiables."

It seems pretty crazy to me after being together five and a half years that such a deal breaker wouldn't come up 'till this late in the game. But in her interview with Us magazine, it sounds like maybe he had wanted kids, and maybe she didn't, and then they both changed their minds?

Have you ever been in a similar situation where it really came down to that one super-important issue (or issues) that ended the relationship? What are your non-negotiables? Share your story in the comments!


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Lenay Lenay 5 years
When I was younger, I used to have a very long list of requirements for my "Mr. Right". But later I realized that I had left the most important thing off the list. Now my #1 non-negotiable is that he has to show me respect and never purposely embarrass me.This covers all of the most important things: physical abuse, verbal abuse, cheating, talking about our sex life, grabbing me in public, dissing me to his dad...
Lenay Lenay 5 years
When I was younger, I used to have a very long list of requirements for my "Mr. Right". But later I realized that I had left the most important thing off the list. Now my #1 non-negotiable is that he has to show me respect and never purposely embarrass me. This covers all of the most important things: physical abuse, verbal abuse, cheating, talking about our sex life, grabbing me in public, dissing me to his dad...
inlove23 inlove23 5 years
Oh, and can't be a crazy drinker, it's okay sometimes but not all the time!
inlove23 inlove23 5 years
Lets see: he has to make enough money so we can be stable (not in a gold digger way haha), non-smoker, must love dogs (esp. my chihuahua), wants to get married and have kids some day, and obviously non abusive.
jazzytummy jazzytummy 5 years
Passion, self-reliance, independence, and accepting who I am, loving me even when I am not at my best.....someone who just GETS me.
zeze zeze 5 years
There are too many to list...lolFaith, children, my career, my independence, cheapness/irresponsibility with finances, respect for others (meaning racists, bigots, rude people) and that person's education/career goals - the last one isn't cut and dry, like I won't refuse to be with anyone who doesn't have a PHD, but someone who doesn't value and education just isn't for me - they may be educated without a degree and I would be accepting of that, but I won't accept someone who tells me they don't need school/learning etc because they are "street smart" whatever that is, lol.
zeze zeze 5 years
There are too many to list...lol Faith, children, my career, my independence, cheapness/irresponsibility with finances, respect for others (meaning racists, bigots, rude people) and that person's education/career goals - the last one isn't cut and dry, like I won't refuse to be with anyone who doesn't have a PHD, but someone who doesn't value and education just isn't for me - they may be educated without a degree and I would be accepting of that, but I won't accept someone who tells me they don't need school/learning etc because they are "street smart" whatever that is, lol.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 5 years
Some of my non-negotiables are:1. Children (I don't want them. My womb is closed)2. Trust (between the both of us)3. Good sex (sexual compatibility is important to me)4. Faithfulness5. Expressing affection
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 5 years
Some of my non-negotiables are: 1. Children (I don't want them. My womb is closed) 2. Trust (between the both of us) 3. Good sex (sexual compatibility is important to me) 4. Faithfulness 5. Expressing affection
Venus1 Venus1 5 years
Non negotiable. To be blunt, no oral no entry!
Pistil Pistil 5 years
There are certain activities and personality traits that would make us incompatible, but I'm still unsure about children right now, and marriage I could take it or leave it. Poor Patti. Millionaire Matchmaker is one of my guilty TV pleasures. I'll have to tune in next season.
Pistil Pistil 5 years
There are certain activities and personality traits that would make us incompatible, but I'm still unsure about children right now, and marriage I could take it or leave it.Poor Patti. Millionaire Matchmaker is one of my guilty TV pleasures. I'll have to tune in next season.
Rjs-baby-girl Rjs-baby-girl 5 years
My 2 big non-negotiable were marriage and children. I wanted both and I couldn't be with someone who didn't want them as well. Got married 3 months and a half ago and we'll start adding new people in 2 or 3 years lol :) The other non-negotiable I had and I discovered it when I met my husband, is that I need someone who lets me be who I am, who doesn't want to shape me in what they think they want in a partner. My husband was the first one I was completely true to, I let him see the best and not so good sides of me right from the start.
chequettex chequettex 5 years
Once I'd been seeing a guy for a few weeks who showed up to dinner all sweaty and wearing dirty shorts and a tank top, er, specifically, a t-shirt with the arms cut off. I thought it was gross. I decided then that whatever it was he was doing (being a slob?) was a non-negotiable for me. Funny how sometimes it's the stupid little things like that can make or break a relationship.
totygoliguez totygoliguez 5 years
jadenirvana, that's such a great idea. My non-negotiable is children, I don't want them. My negotiable is marriage. It is not something I want to do, but I will do it if the guy really wants to, and I love him.
Studio16 Studio16 5 years
Oh, I knew that! I meant that I was only going to avoid the Dorrito-addicted players. Men who play video games for fun are doing just fine in my book - it's the boys who sit around at the computers ALL day (I know many sadly!) who alternate between anime videos on YouTube and reaching new levels on World of Warcraft that are on my "Please Avoid" list haha.
Girl-Jen Girl-Jen 5 years
My non-negotiables revolve around kids, too: 1. Must understand that my #1 priority is raising my daughter. This means I will save money instead of spending extravagantly, I will talk to her dad on a regular basis, and when she gets to that age, I will be attending her school performances instead of going on dates. 2. Must also understand that this baby factory is CLOSED. No more kiddos. I have the one I want.
Girl-Jen Girl-Jen 5 years
My non-negotiables revolve around kids, too:1. Must understand that my #1 priority is raising my daughter. This means I will save money instead of spending extravagantly, I will talk to her dad on a regular basis, and when she gets to that age, I will be attending her school performances instead of going on dates.2. Must also understand that this baby factory is CLOSED. No more kiddos. I have the one I want.
Studio16 Studio16 5 years
My non-negotiables are that a guy must be mannerly and must NOT be a hardcore gamer. I hate the idea of a man who doesn't know proper table manners almost as much as I hate the idea of a man who eats potato chips while playing WoW all day.
jadenirvana jadenirvana 5 years
Spacekatgal: please trade lives with me! My non-negotiable is someone who would not require me to change my name to theirs when we got married. My husband and I both took a new last name together when we got married. For me, that was a very important symbol that we would both change when we got married, rather than one of us changing into the other.
jadenirvana jadenirvana 5 years
Spacekatgal: please trade lives with me! My non-negotiable is someone who would not require me to change my name to theirs when we got married. My husband and I both took a new last name together when we got married. For me, that was a very important symbol that we would both change when we got married, rather than one of us changing into the other.
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