My stepbrother is 22 years old and still lives at home with me and my parents. He's met a girl (26 years old) who has an 18-month-old baby boy.
We used to be very close because for the past few years neither of us have been involved in relationships, so we used to go out and do things together; his friends are my friends and my friends are his friends etc. We used to spend most of our weekends out visiting friends and having a good time. He's met this girl who really is nice. They've known each other for 3 years and have been dating for only 5 months. The other night he came home and told me that he's moving in with her. Both her parents have passed away, so she's an independent young mother who has settled down and devoted her life to her son.
To find out more, keep reading.
My stepbrother in the meantime has alienated himself from his friends and family who as a result of this are probably developing some sort of a "dislike" to her. I've found myself lost and alone suddenly, but that was my own fault. I allowed myself to get into a "comfort zone" where I was quite happy having him to chat to and go out with and I think he felt the same way. He's totally love struck and when the 2 of them are together, there's nothing and no one else who exists. He's decided to move in with her now and personally I think it's a big mistake. He's throwing away his young life to settle down and step in as a father figure to the little one. As it is, we hardly ever see him as he spends most week nights and all weekends there with her.
Am I being selfish here, or is there reason to worry?
Obviously there's nothing I can say or do to change his mind and make him see what he's really doing. I'm not even going to try and speak to him about it.
I need to get my life back on track now and find that special lady, but I can't help but worry that this is going to end up a disaster. Any advice on how to deal with all this?
There's lots of great stuff going on in our community — join it, check it out, share your posts or advice in the great groups, and maybe we'll feature it here on TrèsSugar!