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My Balding Boyfriend Needs A New "Do"

My Balding Boyfriend Needs A New "Do"

Dear Sugar
My boyfriend is a wonderful man. He is sweet, loving, and handsome, he just happens to be losing his hair. Instead of just buzz cutting it he has grown the top a bit longer then the sides and pushed it back trying to attempt to cover the area. Not quite a Donald Trump comb-over but a full on "comb-back"!

I love him and don't want to insult him but he is aging himself by ten years and he is only 32. I know my girlfriends snicker about it and I really don't care what they think, but he just does not look as good as he could.

How can I suggest hairstyle improvements to him without hurting his feelings? He is so sensitive about his hair. It's in the same realm as calling a girl fat. We are going away to a beach in three weeks with friends and I am just embarrassed for him. Am I being really insensitive? Should I just live with it? Somewhat Superficial Sonia

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Dear Somewhat Superficial Sonia
Something you should know about guys is that hair loss is probably the one thing that causes them more anxiety than anything else. Imagine looking in the mirror to find a receding hairline or even a small patch of hair that is balding? It can have quite a dramatic effect on a man's confidence level. For some, it can even lead to depression.

However, if there is anyone that can talk to him about this it's you; just be mindful of his feelings. Imagine if he suggested that you make some changes to your appearance? That could be a tough pill to swallow. If you want to gently appoach him with some ideas, try showing him a few pictures of men's haircuts that you like and that you think are attainable for him.

See how he reacts and make sure not to push the envelope. Hopefully, he'll engage you. If not, let it go and tell him that you love him. It's critical that this doesn't seem all that important to you.

If all else fails, you could secretly talk to his hairdresser and have him make alternative suggestions. Your boyfriend is probably holding onto the last of his hair for dear life until he faces his inevitable and permanent buzz cut.

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