I've known my best friend for almost eight years now. We used to be incredibly close and I could confide in her completely. But once high school ended, she moved to go to a school two hours away. We both worked so seeing each other became difficult at times. All of this, I could accept, but then she started changing. And I realized that I just can't stand the person she is now.
She hates my fiancé and I really can't figure out why. She says that he's rude, an idiot, that he's too clingy, etc. But when I asked her why she felt this way, the reasons were trivial and really unfounded. She purposely puts him down on Facebook all the time and then rants how he gets too dramatic about it when he calls her out on it. We had one post and she called him something along the lines of an idiot. Then called me to say he was too sensitive and she was only quoting some TV show and he should've known it.
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All in all, I'm tired of her berating me about him, especially when he goes out of his way to get along with her because he knows that I hate them not getting along. We've talked about it but she never sees how she's doing anything wrong. Ever.
Every time we talk, she's always explaining how hard life is for her. I always let her vent about her frustrations. But everyone else's problems are minimal and stupid and they (including me) have no right to complain about life. She can put people down for any reason, but if I have a problem with someone, I'm being ignorant. Like a mutual acquaintance of ours decided to be rude via Facebook and I called him out on it. He didn't like what I had to say so he took me off his friends list. He kept writing the argument to me so I blocked him. He went to my best friend complaining and saying this I didn't even say to him.
I'm tired of my ideas being stupid. I'm tired of it always being my fault we don't see each other as often. I'm tired of being looked down upon. I don't remember her being this way. But according to my other friends and family, this is how she's always been. We have moments where it's like old times and I cherish those moments... but suddenly I don't feel the need to talk to her as much. I dread our messages because it's usually some sort of disagreement. I just don't know what to do. My fiancé and I are about to have our first child. And I've always wanted her to be there and be part of my child's life. Now that it's coming to it, I don't know if I want to deal with her or have her having any influence on my baby. I just don't know how to handle the situation. Talking with her now is almost impossible, even though I want to talk about it, it'll end up being all my fault and me being selfish for whatever reasoning.
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