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"My Boyfriend Is Depressing Me — Should I Stay?"

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I met this wonderful man two months ago. He's a veteran and he has PTSD, which isn't a problem — I love him and he loves me, but because of the situation, he lives at a home for veterans. Lately he's been constantly depressed, and it's bringing me down. I have my own stressors and now I have his on top of everything. He says I'm his whole world, that he has no one else, and that he wouldn't know what to do without me. He calls me once every hour.

Also, I recently found out that he has ED and low testosterone, which means no sex drive. I really care for him and love him but this relationship has become very toxic for me. I have so many stressors in my life and this is not helping my health. I try my best to keep him upbeat, but then I get depressed with trying. In the beginning it wasn't bad, but now it's more like a chore and I really don't want to talk to him. Between divorces, the service, and getting sick, he's been through a lot of stuff in the past 10 years. I feel so bad for him but I'm running myself down by trying to keep him up.

What do I do? Do I leave him? Do I stay? I'm just so confused. I don't want to hurt him, and I'm afraid that if I leave he may do something drastic. I need positive things in my life and this relationship is not helping. Because he's on disability, he can't work and he can't get out of the home he lives in — and I can't help because I'm unemployed. What should I do?

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