I have been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years now. Sure we have had our share of problems, but overall our relationship is solid. However, lately the last 6 months he has been such a slacker lacking all responsibility. He is not on top of his school work, he complains about his job but doesn't do anything about it, and in the love department he just doesn't seem excited to be with me. I know he loves me, but is it a crime to want to go out and do things as a couple. I'd like to go to an amusement park, see a Broadway show, go have a nice picnic, and he just is not interested. I'm afraid if something doesn't change soon, I will be the one that is not interested in this relationship anymore! What am I to do? Down Darla
Dear Down Darla
When a man is feeling low, all you can do is be supportive. He's probably not going to cry and moan like you and your girlfriends would, he'll become introverted and quiet. Remember, men are from Mars and women are from Venus! Hopefully it's just a phase that will pass. If you were going through something, you'd want his support so do what it is that you know he needs and likes for a week or 2 and then sit him down and help him snap out of his funk. If you baby him for much longer, he'll start to suck you dry of compassion and you'll wind up resenting him.