I am so excited about my recent engagement. My soon to be husband is wonderful, generous and as charming as can be. His proposal was everything I had dreamed of and the ring was perfect; I couldn't ask for anything more.
A few days after my fiancé proposed, I went to have my ring appraised and insured. I was stunned when I got a call this morning from the appraiser who told me that my stunner was a cubic zirconia! Purchasing a fake diamond is so not like my fiancé. He has wonderful taste and he's been saving for two years for the ring so I know that he can afford it.
I am concerned that perhaps he got ripped off and doesn't know that it's not real. Or do you think he bought a fake ring and hoped that I would never find out? I love my fiancé and my ring so much. He's never lied to me before. I don't know what to do? If he was taken for a ride with my ring I just know that he's going to feel so stupid. What should I do? Should I say something to him or not? Faked Out Franny
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Dear Faked Out Franny
If you feel in your heart of hearts that your man is being duped, I would absolutely let him know; and the sooner the better. Do you know where he purchased the ring? Is it like him to make a purchase that significant without checking out his sources?
This could be a very awkward conversation so I think the best way to approach him is to be as straightforward and honest as possible. Try saying something like this:
"Honey, I just got back from getting my ring appraised and he told me it was a cubic zirconia! I love my ring regardless of the value, but I thought I should let you know in case you thought you bought a diamond. I know this was a big purchase and I just wanted to make sure you weren't getting ripped off."
If he was sold an imitation diamond, he's going to be incredibly appreciative that you told him so he can take the ring back and hopefully get reimbursed. Another suggestion would be to take your ring to another appraiser just to be certain you are getting the correct information. You never know if the appraiser is trying to rip you off as well.