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My Future In-Laws Hate ME

Dear Sugar
My boyfriend and I have been dating for two years. We are very happy and have been discussing the prospect of getting married. Everything is perfect, except that his parents hate me. I grew up in a different socioeconomic class and his parents have always looked down upon me and don't think I am good enough for their son.

I plan to spend the rest of my life with this man but his parents put a huge damper on our happiness. When the time comes to start planning my wedding, how much do I need to involve them? I don't even want to invite them, but I know that would ultimately hurt my boyfriend. What should I do? Hated Heather

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Dear Hated Heather
I am sorry you are in this predicament during such a happy time in your life. How close is your boyfriend with his parents? Have you talked to him about the way they make you feel? If so, has he ever stuck up for you?

This is something that you need to discuss with your boyfriend before you get engaged. His family is a part of his life and if and when you decide to get married, you wouldn't want a black cloud over your special day. Perhaps you should try to spend some quality time with them so that you can get to know each other better. Be your wonderful self so that they can see all of the great things that your boyfriend sees in you.

Your wedding day will be a day you will remember for the rest of your life. Marriage comes with give and take and alienating your boyfriend's family will only make matters worse later down the road. Hopefully you can work on your relationship to dissipate your differences by the time the wedding bells chime.

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