My roommate is super messy - she'll leave a dish in the sink forever until I clean it. Since I don't want to do her dirty dishes anymore, I leave mine in the sink too until they all pile up. I don't want to clean up her mess and since the place isn't great - I am not inspired to be neat myself. Untidy Tara
Dear Untidy Tara
Ever hear the expression 'two wrongs don't make a right?' Your pad sounds pretty narly if no one is cleaning it at all. Ew, you are only doing yourself a disservice by not cleaning it because no one will want to come over and hang out there. Set some ground rules and if that doesn't work, put a dirty sponge along with her gross dishes right in her bed! That should bring the mess to her attention.