My parents play favorites with my children. They will send gifts for my daughter but then forget her little brother. I don't want to seem ungrateful for the things they do send but I find it hurtful that they neglect the youngest member of the family. How can I handle this without seeming ungrateful and petty? Sad For The Second Born
Dear Sad For The Second Born
In my research on this topic, I've found that your problem is very common. Lots of moms say that no matter how many "talks" they have with their parents about treating each child equally, nothing helps. The grandparents continue to act as they wish and talking to them accomplishes absolutely nothing. So here's what I propose you should do:
Give them the benefit of the doubt and have 1 talk with your parents. If nothing changes...then threaten them. Let them know that you want your parents to be a part of both of your children's lives. Send them pictures of the children doing their favorite activities so they can see how each child differs. If they can't change their behavior, then they can't see your kids. It's not worth the damage that it will cause to your youngest's self esteem. The pain of feeling the least favorite is a scar that will forever cut deep. You would think your parents would know better! Good for you - it's really great of you to be putting your baby's needs first.