I am a high school senior who has decided to try marijuana now that I've turned 18. I've smoked about a dozen (+) times and I’ve had a great experience with it until recently when my parents found out. Ever since I've been busted, smoking pot has made me super jittery. Now when I smoke, I feel paranoid, my heart beats super fast, my chest hurts and my mind races like crazy about all of the bad things that could be happening to my body.
My parents and I had a big fight about it a few weeks ago. I of course lied and told them that I only did it once so they would forgive me and they did. But a few days ago I came home late and was scolded badly. They could tell that I was high and this time they were more angry than ever.
I've been punished, and now I am not allowed to see my best friend (she was the one that I was out with when I came home late). I feel awful about it. I know it's because of drugs that we have been set apart and so I've decided to stop smoking marijuana forever. My best friend is more important to me than anything.
I know it's going to be hard to stop, but this addiction caused a lot of trouble to my body, my mind, my family and my friendship. DS, how can I convince my parents to let me see her again? I can't stand the thought of not having her in my life. Lonesome Laurel
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Dear Lonesome Laurel
I am sorry that your experiment with drugs ended so badly. Now you know why people always say that drugs cause so many problems. You've tried it and hopefully that's the end of pot for you; especially since it has such a terrible effect on your body.
Now that you've learned your lesson the hard way, we need to fix your problem and get your friend back. Sit down with your parents and have a mature talk with them about allowing your best friend back into your life.
Tell them how sorry you are to have caused them so much worry and pain. Tell them that you regret lying to them and then reassure them that it's not your friend who made you do it. They are just worried that she's a bad influence on you. Explain to them that you and your buddy have a wonderful relationship aside from this "blip" and that you really miss her.
Stay calm and be prepared for a little bit of a lecture. It's your parents job to keep you safe from harm and they aren't going to let this one slide so fast; especially since you lied about it. Hopefully they'll come around. Keep us posted.