I've been living with my roommate for 2 1/2 years now. She's a kind person, very funny and attractive, yet she seems to date all the wrong guys.
Recently, she started having an affair with a married man at her office. She claims it's innocent flirting and an occasional kiss, but I know it's more. I think she's selling herself short and preventing herself from finding a guy who could give her a real commitment.
How can I help her help herself? Fretful For My Friend
Dear Fretful For My Friend
Try not to project your values onto her and stand on ceremony. Remember your place. You are her friend, not her deity so stop judging her and be a pal.
Give her honest advice about the downfalls of getting involved with a married man. Tell her that it's fruitless and that it will never give her what she wants in life - a bona fide relationship.