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Myths Romantic Comedies Perpetuate

8 Myths About Love Romantic Comedies Perpetuate

We know romantic comedies send unrealistic messages about relationships, but now we're hearing they contribute to relationship problems. A survey of 1,000 adults in Australia found nearly half said rom-coms are ruining their views of an ideal relationship. Maybe you've heard "if it was right, it'd just work," but that says more about Hollywood plots than real-life romance. So what myths do we have to watch out for? Here's eight to start.

  1. You just know he's the one — and you're right: We've probably all felt this at some point, and most of us have been proven wrong.
  2. Change yourself, and he'll fall head over heels: How often has the bland girl put on a dress and makeup only to dazzle the guy who didn't know her name 30 minutes ago. It's only like the entire plot of Cinderella!
  3. Sex solves problems: Unless the problem is he'd like to have sex right now, then all it will provide is distraction.
  4. Playing hard to get works: In reality, acting disinterested makes him think you're not interested. He may want you, but he'll probably be too scared to act.
  5. If you run, he'll follow: Unless he's very confident or very clueless, he's probably not going to make a fool out of himself. Most guys would sooner sit home brokenhearted.
  6. You don't need his number: He always gets the number in rom-coms, and he always calls. And if he doesn't, he has a reason that somehow will make you love him more.
  7. Love changes him: Love can conquer anything, right? Pot habits. Video game obsessions. Irregular bathing. Not likely. He may change for a while, but lasting change really needs to be made for the self and not another.
  8. Love knows no socioeconomic bounds: Even if we're so magnanimous that we can overlook major class, education, and money differences, there's another person's insecurities involved. Not to mention money is one of the most common things couples fight over.
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stephley stephley 6 years
While I haven't spotted 'the one', I will say that on four occasions in my life, I have spotted complete strangers in a room and 'just knew' they would become important to me. Shall we talk about the myths action movies perpetuate - like you can be beaten to a bloody pulp or shot several times and be up and joking just hours later, or if a building explodes just as you're leaving it, you'll get little more than a scratch?
stephley stephley 6 years
While I haven't spotted 'the one', I will say that on four occasions in my life, I have spotted complete strangers in a room and 'just knew' they would become important to me. Shall we talk about the myths action movies perpetuate - like you can be beaten to a bloody pulp or shot several times and be up and joking just hours later, or if a building explodes just as you're leaving it, you'll get little more than a scratch?
Girl-Jen Girl-Jen 6 years
How about, "If love is there, it renders the rest of life's difficulties either null or unimportant." NOT TRUE!Just because two people's brains are throwing wonky chemicals around in each other's presence, does not mean that things like the aftermath of divorce (Must Love Dogs) or failing business (You've Got Mail) or psychiatric issues (all of them!) just go away.
Girl-Jen Girl-Jen 6 years
How about, "If love is there, it renders the rest of life's difficulties either null or unimportant." NOT TRUE! Just because two people's brains are throwing wonky chemicals around in each other's presence, does not mean that things like the aftermath of divorce (Must Love Dogs) or failing business (You've Got Mail) or psychiatric issues (all of them!) just go away.
tigr3bianca tigr3bianca 6 years
I hate rom-coms, they all follow the same storyline and its pathetic. I can't imagine if someone thought their real life relationship could mirror these movies. I love Not Another Teen Movie for pointing out all these flaws. However, I do agree that playing a little hard to get works. Not to the point where you seem absolutely uninterested but just enough to make him work for your attention. My biggest peeve about rom-coms is the "stay with me instead of fulfilling your dreams". I guess its because I perpetuated that stereotype.
tigr3bianca tigr3bianca 6 years
I hate rom-coms, they all follow the same storyline and its pathetic. I can't imagine if someone thought their real life relationship could mirror these movies. I love Not Another Teen Movie for pointing out all these flaws. However, I do agree that playing a little hard to get works. Not to the point where you seem absolutely uninterested but just enough to make him work for your attention. My biggest peeve about rom-coms is the "stay with me instead of fulfilling your dreams". I guess its because I perpetuated that stereotype.
jadenirvana jadenirvana 6 years
Or how guys are charmed by girls who are incredibly neurotic, like constantly stuttering and tripping over their own feet? In real life, guys like confident women.
Beauty Beauty 6 years
I'd also add that a lot of the "kooky" behavior shown to be romantic in these movies is actually CREEPY. I'm sorry, but if my ex showed up outside my window with a boom box over his head, I'd be calling the police.
simplystella simplystella 6 years
@jadenirvana: I'm so with you about that! Those movie endings always annoyed me. "You've got mail" especially. Considering rom-coms are mostly aimed at women, they should be a little less sexist, perhaps? I have to say, tho, that #2 and #4 are not that much unrealistic. For my own personal experience, I'd say that men are often so superficial that they won't notice a girl that is not attractive by common standards, and that their ancestral "chasing instinct" often drives them toward women that aren't so easy to get :D
simplystella simplystella 6 years
@jadenirvana: I'm so with you about that! Those movie endings always annoyed me. "You've got mail" especially. Considering rom-coms are mostly aimed at women, they should be a little less sexist, perhaps?I have to say, tho, that #2 and #4 are not that much unrealistic. For my own personal experience, I'd say that men are often so superficial that they won't notice a girl that is not attractive by common standards, and that their ancestral "chasing instinct" often drives them toward women that aren't so easy to get :D
onlysourcherry onlysourcherry 6 years
I disagree that playing hard to get doesn't work. I feel like playing hard to get has weeded out a lot of lazy unromantic guys for me. The only thing I'd add is that romantic comedies always cut off after "guy gets girl" and never show the relationships, which i think gives girls unrealistic expectations for what the subsequent relationship will be like.
onlysourcherry onlysourcherry 6 years
I disagree that playing hard to get doesn't work. I feel like playing hard to get has weeded out a lot of lazy unromantic guys for me. The only thing I'd add is that romantic comedies always cut off after "guy gets girl" and never show the relationships, which i think gives girls unrealistic expectations for what the subsequent relationship will be like.
RoaringSilence RoaringSilence 6 years
Argh I loathe romantic comedies. And everyone knows people who expect life to be exactly like them, and won't settle for anything less.
jadenirvana jadenirvana 6 years
The one that really makes me mad is where the guy rushes in at the end scene and is like "I love you! Please stay here with me instead of going off to the really cool life-long dream you were just on your way to!" How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days and The Family Man come to mind. Why can't the guy ever change his life to go with the girl if he "loves" her so much? And don't even get me started on You've Got Mail. Preposterous!
pss pss 6 years
So true!!the one anarkypants adds is the best!!lol
snarkypants snarkypants 6 years
i think this should be added to number 2. "take off your glasses. plain, ugly girls wear glasses, but once they take them off, they're beautiful!"
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