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"New Guy May Also Be Dating a Mutual Acquaintance"

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I've recently started dating a seemingly nice man. We've been out three times so far, including two nights in a row and he's come across as quite a gentleman. We're in similar lines of work, so we have a lot to talk about. He's talked a lot about his family and his personal life and has mentioned to me that he does like me and wants to take things slow and not rush (physically). Everything has seemed great — he texts me every day — anything from "how's your day?" to some more flirty/suggestive messages.

I definitely feel like he's interested, but I then bumped into him at a movie theater with a mutual acquaintance of ours, on what very much appeared to be a date. I was so initially stunned that I didn't handle the situation well at all, and may have been rude to my friend in the shock of realizing he may be dating both of us. I don't think that she knows I've also been seeing him — and I am struggling with how to handle. By no means are we exclusive and dating other people hasn't come up yet, but I feel misled by some of his actions. I don't want to immediately kick him to the curb, but I think this is a red flag. I don't know if I should bring it up to him or wait to see if he's going to bring it up to me.

I feel terrible about the way I behaved when I ran into them and would also like to explain that to my friend, without it coming across that I'm tattling on him for dating both of us or rubbing it in her face. Help!

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