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Group Therapy: When the Attraction Is Not Mutual

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I have a really good friend who is in love with me. We have an awesome friendship. I have flirted with him in the past, only because he flirted with me.

We always hang out, the last time he came shopping with me and he didn't have to, he just came along. I really enjoy hanging out with him and we have great conversations and I can talk to him for hours. We get along great, and everyone thinks we should date, the problem? I'm just not attracted to him.

I'm a single girl always complaining about how difficult it is to find someone, so I feel bad that there is someone right in front of me, but I feel weird thinking about being in a relationship with him. I feel that I should just avoid him, but he asked me to hang out next week . . . I said sure.

I also feel like I'm using him because he does a lot for me, and I don't do anything for him, and I don't want to be in the way of him finding someone he can really be with, because he may be thinking that one of these days I'll confess my love for him. Has anyone been in this situation? What should I do?

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