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Normal to Fantasize About Other Men

Group Therapy: Is It Normal For a Married Woman to Fantasize About Other Men?

This question is from a Group Therapy post in our TrèsSugar Community. Add your advice in the comments!

If you are a married woman, do you ever find yourself fantasizing about what it would be like to sleep with another man?

I am newly married to an attractive, successful man whom I love very much. So why do I find myself getting turned on by the idea of sleeping with other men?

I work in a massive office building, and there is this one guy in particular who really is setting the scene for my daydreams. I don't even know him other than in passing by, but he is so attractive, and I can't help but imagine what it would be like to have a torrid sexy affair with him in secret — at his place, in hotel rooms, cars, etc. I get so turned on thinking about it.

I have never pursued him or even given him any idea that I'm so turned on by him, but he is playing on my mind a lot and I've even had a couple dreams with him in them. Obviously it's just a sexual thing; and nothing more, but it's still a super powerful feeling that I've never really had before. I think it must be the mystery of it all, because again, I don't even know the guy. He has blonde hair, blue eyes, super tall, masculine body and my husband has the same build but with brown hair, olive skin tone and green eyes; both are so super attractive. I'm just worried because if I'm so turned on by another guy this early in my marriage, what does the future hold? Again, I have never acted on any of these urges, or even come close to cheating on my husband even before we were married, but I'm still a little concerned because I don't want it to ever get to that point.

I guess what I'm trying to ask, is this normal and has anyone else ever had the same types of feelings?

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