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Dear Sugar
I am so confused about my relationship with one of my good guy friends. I can't tell if he is interested in me as more than a friend or if he wants to take it to the next level. He sends me mixed signals all the time and I have had it!

For example, he will say "I think we would make a good couple" then a couple of days later he will say "We should always just be friends so we won't ruin what we have." I don't know what to do. I really like him, but I just can't figure him out. Can you give me some tips on how to handle this situation? Anticipating Annie

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Dear Anticipating Annie
Getting mixed signals can be totally confusing so I understand your frustration. It sounds like he is pretty confused himself. If you are sick and tired of waiting for him to make a move, you are going to have to take a risk and ask him how he feels.

What does your gut tell you? Does it feel like he is interested in you? Sometimes the perfect guy could be right in front of your face so what do you have to lose? Since you are not sure what his reaction would be, try adding a bit of comedy to your conversation to ease the tension. The next time he makes a comment about what a great couple you would be, try saying something like this:

"You're so funny; you always say that but you never act on it...why not? Are you afraid of me? You should know by now that I don't bite!"

Take his reaction and run with it, you never know, he might be too afraid to make a move on you because he doesn't think you are interested in him. Sometimes guys are extremely insecure about being turned down so perhaps all he needs is a little push in the right direction to gain the confidence to make the move. Good luck.

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