I work under my boss' wife who is barely ever in the office. I have been here 6 months and was never really trained or shown how to do my job. On my first day, the wife advised me that I would have 3 weeks to train with her, after which she would then come in part time to do accounts. Well all I got as training was that first day. I learned the basics (what to say on the phone and where every thing is located in the office) and was then left to fend for myself. I have never worked in this field before and I think I've done a pretty good job so far. (Meaning the office is still running.) The problem is the wife. During her long absence, her accounts piled up and as a result, there was no revenue. At one point the bookkeeper advised me to run and cash my paychecks because she wasn't sure if they might bounce! People kept calling asking why they weren't being invoiced and I had to make excuses. I offered to do the accounts myself if the wife would just come in and show me. She just kept telling me she would be in, but never showed. (This happened more times than I can count. She always had an excuse for not showing up.) My boss was never in charge of the paperwork and basically had no clue how to help me. I don't know why he couldn't just call his wife and ask her to come in for a few hours! This has been going on ever since I started. Now she comes in every once in a while and does a few accounts. She's mega stressed and snaps at me for whatever mistakes I make. I literally am afraid of this woman. I went home in tears a few times from being so overwhelmed. She constantly points out my mistakes; mistakes that I have been making for 6 months because no one was here to point them out to me 6 months ago! And did I mention no one has cleaned this office since October? It's gross! Yesterday she got angry with me again and I finally worked up the courage to yell back. In the end of our screech fest, I was wrong and she was right, of course. It's useless to fight with her. I was left red-faced and defeated. My boyfriend and I are moving out of town in a couple of months and I am looking forward to quitting my job. However with what went on yesterday, I am really dreading coming to work every day more than I was previously, and I don't know how much more I can take. I want to quit right now so I can concentrate on looking for a new job in my new town. It's only a couple of months and I have more than enough money saved up to get me through this unemployment period. Do you think I am being wimpy? Should I suck it up and stay for 2 more months? Please help!
Assistant Who Needs Assistance
Dear Assistant Who Needs Assistance
This woman sounds like a piece of work. I have witnessed time and time again where the wife/girlfriend marches to their own tune in the office and thinks they run the show. It's VERY frustrating and you are right, you can never win an argument. I would make a compromise with yourself. Stay for 1 more month and then quit. If you have the money to be unemployed for a month, take advantage of it. Moving is as stressful as going through a divorce or a death in the family. You are going to need the time to: pack, organize and look for a new job. Don't feel defeated; you should feel proud that you lasted as long as you did without any direction. That dirty office should feel lucky to have you.