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Parents Bring Babies to Bars

A Bar For Mommy Is a Bar For Baby?

"Look at you. You have a baby . . . in a bar." I have to admit, Reese Witherspoon's reaction to her mommy friend toting baby in a bar in Sweet Home Alabama echoed my own sentiments on the matter. Though I've never actually seen a tot at the bar, I think I'd just be confused. After all, bar talk and bar behavior isn't usually child-friendly, so why bring the little one along?

That seems to be the attitude of most child-less singles and couples in Brooklyn in the midst of a heated debate with young parents in the neighborhood. For some without babies of their own, compromising the social space for moms and dads is almost intolerable: "I will get up on the subway for kids. I will be tolerant of them kicking the back of my seat while seeing a G-rated movie. But let me have my bars." Even on a practical level strollers take up a lot of space, and if you've ever been in a crowded bar, then you know finding a place to stand can be hard enough without a Bugaboo rocking against your knees. Still, I have to confess after a little more deep thought, and some time thinking of my own future — and possibly becoming a mother, I started to feel for young parents. To hear why keep reading.

For sensible moms and dads, like LilSugar, it seems the point of heading out to a bar is actually pretty reasonable, if not, totally understandable. As a young parent, it can be isolating to sit at home with baby, and the bar offers a social alternative. It's not as if parents are here to compete with the young crowd — they're not bar-hopping, raging, and certainly not hoping to be out till all hours of the night. In fact, after a quick drink parents might be gone by 8 p.m., leaving the scene before you and your friends even arrive. And hey, if mom and the little one are still hanging around after eight, maybe that's when bar owners can ask them to pack it in. I understand the annoyance of having a crying baby at a just-adults-kind-of-place, but I'm also feeling for a mom who needs to get out a little.

Where do you stand on moms and their babes at the bar?

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danakscully64 danakscully64 6 years
A friend of mind pointed out that there are child friendly bars out there. She went to one that was in a farm like setting, out back there was a playground. She didn't drink at all. What's scary about that is it opens doors for parents to bring their kids, drink, and drive home. If it's a child friendly bar, completely up to the parents, but the regular bars... no. Isn't it against the law in many places to bring a minor inside, even if they're a baby?
tlsgirl tlsgirl 6 years
I don't want babies in bars. I go there to be with adults, not to watch my language or have to step around someone's giant stroller. I find this to be so incredibly selfish. Go to a family restaurant or get a babysitter. There really is no both sides of the issue on this for me. You had a child - accept that there are certain things that you will give up, but don't force everyone else to deal with the fact that little Susie's at happy hour. It's entitled and rude.
danakscully64 danakscully64 6 years
I agree with Hiding. Before you know it, we'll have parents taking their children to strip clubs. Who in their right mind would want to bring a child into a bar anyway? Not a child-friendly environment.
adonnam04 adonnam04 6 years
As a young single mom, the idea is nice. I would love a good place to go and meet other single ppl. (I don't have many between my office job, college, and church) I meet the same people over and over again. It has been just my son and I since he was 5 mts old so he is well accustomed to "adult" surroundings (we love nice restaurants, we do a lot of activities w/ my 20s singles church class where there are no other children) and such. We also do a lot of mommy and me classes and things of that nature too. That being said I, personally, would die if I actually took my son to a bar, it just doesn't seem appropriate. It was hard enough going to church as a single divorced mother. I do like some of the compromising ideas others stated. The whole Baby Loves Disco phenomenon totally got me :)
looseseal looseseal 6 years
My mother and father never took me to a bar as a baby. Does this explain why I still don't like to hang out in bars? And why I've never been falling-down-and-puking-my-guts-out drunk? (Though I do drink in moderation.) Does this mean I had a deprived childhood and was never properly socialized? Aw, now I'm bummed. People, take your babies to the bars so you don't deprive them of a chance to feel at home in bars and develop a life-long dependance on alcohol. It's too late for me, but it's not too late for today's babies. You gotta give these things an early start. ;)
lawdawg08 lawdawg08 6 years
Janine22 Janine22 6 years
Umm what is up with that picture? It looks like mormon polygamists with a plastic baby? I don't get it.
lawdawg08 lawdawg08 6 years
Monique, that is hilarious, but if its true, then not so much.
lawdawg08 lawdawg08 6 years
Hiding, spacekat, and anonymous @ 28 you guys are right. Hiding I apologize, I should have thought first before i posted that critical comment. But i was actually joking about babies in the bar and non parental units occupying the children.
medenginer medenginer 6 years
I have children and I'm not offended by the comment Hiding made. Some people are not child friendly and they are honest about it. I respect that since children are not for some people. I do not mind dealing with other peoples children if they are behaved. It's people who do not parent their child when it's called for is what gets to me.
Hiding55 Hiding55 6 years
I thought I thought my thought before I posted my post. : ponder : Thanks for the friendly advise, lawdawg!
lawdawg08 lawdawg08 6 years
Hiding, you should think first, then post.
Hiding55 Hiding55 6 years
Hells no! Keep your kids out of the bar. It's a place for adults. I don't have kids because I don't want to deal with them and I sure as hell don't want to deal with anyone elses. Get a baby sitter. You can't put your problem off on everyone else.
lawdawg08 lawdawg08 6 years
It takes a village!!!
lawdawg08 lawdawg08 6 years
On second could probably be acceptable if the bar specifically caters to that demographic or group of like minded individuals that have babies that want a change of scenery. The local bar could also advertise for that group to come out on a specific night of the week as long as they were NOT driving and or consuming too much alcohol.The people that don't want to see babies in bars would know that that night or afternoon was geared toward parents and their babies, so they could go elsewhere (or keep the babies occupied while the parents chatted and watched the game)
sourcherries sourcherries 6 years Young parent craving social atmosphere? Tough. Create one at your own home. Some of us might eventually want to join you in parenthood and it ain't happening with screaming babies, curious toddlers, and ginormous strollers.
lawdawg08 lawdawg08 6 years
Babies in bars!!...absurd, stupid, and irresponsible!!
medenginer medenginer 6 years
I don't keep alcohol in my home or drink with any child present. That is my own beliefs and I don't look down on those who do. I wouldn't take my own children to a bar since that has the potential for numerous problems.
Beauty Beauty 6 years
Becoming a parent means getting some wonderful new things out of life and giving up or tweaking some other things. If parents want to go to bars, by all means, they should... after getting a babysitter to watch Junior back at home.
jenni5 jenni5 6 years
Does this really happen? I have 2 little ones and would NEVER bring them to a bar. If you need to be social bring them to Barnes & Noble or something. What does your child do while your drinking and socializing? Kids need to be constantly watched and I can't imagine what's going on while their parents are talking and drinking. Just like children are not allowed in casinos (in Atlantic City anyway) they should NOT be allowed in bars.
Pets Pets 6 years
My bigger problem with the Park Slope situation (and, yes, I used to live there) beyond the "baby-in-a-bar" concept is the sheer number of strollers and a disregard for common courtesy that I've witnessed time and time again. Many times, they're pushed down the sidewalk with little regard to people who have to step far out of the way, often into the street, when pals opt for the side-by-side walking style taking up the full sidewalk . . . and nevermind what happens to paws that get too close! It's that either they take up tons of space in an often standing room only bar or they are just deposited en masse on sidewalks outside of other locations (that have a "no strollers inside" sign) creating an obstacle to walking people — and, I don't even want to think what someone in a wheelchair would need to do to get around them. Yes, I know that everyone doesn't do this, but imagine what would happen if a group of people decided to bring their bicycles inside a bar, too. Why does a stroller and a child allow for an alternate set of rules?
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