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What the Language of Love Sounds Like

It's all too obvious when couples dress alike, but talking alike is much more subtle. And if you're lucky, it happens to you.

University of Texas researchers studied the poetry and letters of two famous literary couples — Elizabeth Barrett and Robert Browning and Ted Hughes and Sylvia Plath — to determine that couples matched each other's language when relationships were intense and in sync.

Knowing that language-mirroring reveals the state of a relationship, researchers analyzed couples' language by counting the ways they used pronouns, prepositions, and other words in various sentences. The conclusion? Happy couples talk alike.

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LittleMzFit LittleMzFit 6 years
I agree w/ Stephley. We need to see a study that's statistically significant. ;)
postmodernsleaze postmodernsleaze 6 years
^ Yeah, secondstar, I'm pretty sure that's true. I researched body language once and read that matching speech to those around you is a way to say, "I am not a threat, I am not going to try to dominate you." Kind of like a dog rolling on his back to another dog.
secondstar secondstar 6 years
Doesn't that go for anyone who spends a lot of time together? I've noticed the same thing with close friends, family patterns, and even coworkers sometimes. I think you just adopt speech patterns of the people you're surrounded with, just like picking up an accent if you live somewhere long enough.
stephley stephley 6 years
It may be true but basing it on a study of two literary couples is hardly definitive.
chatondeneige chatondeneige 6 years
Oddly enough, I noticed this a few months ago about my boyfriend's speech. He's definitely formalized his speech a little, and I noticed that I've relaxed mine a little, so now they're pretty similar, and we can usually guess, word for word, what the other will say.
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