Skip Nav
Eye Candy
You Don't Have to Be a Football Fan to Fawn Over This Hot Super Bowl Ref
Sex
12 Actors Who Have Bared All on Screen
Relationships
15 Perks of Getting Married in Your Early 20s (or Even Younger)

Not Physically Attracted to My Boyfriend

"I'm Not Physically Attracted to My Boyfriend"

This week's confession comes from our anonymous Confession Booth group in the TrèsSugar Community. Weigh in with your advice below.

I have been going out with my boyfriend for a while now, and things are going quite well. Emotionally we are a great match, he is everything I have wanted in a man, though I have always been troubled with the idea that I'm not physically attracted to him. Though this does not at all affect our physical relationship which I enjoy very much, I cannot help but wonder about the importance of physical attraction in a relationship. It's not that he's unattractive by any means, but I have many social problems one of which I am extremely wary of other people and what they think of me. I am working hard at helping this problem, but it means that in public I am quite aware of how other people perceive my relationship. I feel like a right bitch for thinking this way and I wish I could change it but it has made me question this issue of physical attraction. I have always been a firm believer in the fact that looks meaning nothing in a relationship (perhaps due to the fact my favorite book is Jane Eyre) but now that I'm in the situation I find myself very confused.

Should my lack of physical attraction be a factor considered? Or should I continue with my relationship with my boyfriend who I am slowly falling for?

There's lots of cool stuff going on in our community — join it, check it out, share your posts or advice in the great groups, and maybe we'll feature it here on TrèsSugar!

Image Source: Thinkstock
Around The Web
Benefits of Getting Married Young
Affordable Ways to Update Your Wardrobe
What Men Want in a Girlfriend
Love Advice For Your Younger Sister

POPSUGAR, the #1 independent media and technology company for women. Where more than 75 million women go for original, inspirational content that feeds their passions and interests.

Join The Conversation
sagagirl sagagirl 3 years
I think physical attraction is very important.   I personally cannot stay in a relationship with someone I find unattractive, but that is me. Some individuals seem to be able to stay in a relationship without sexual or physical attraction; that is unnatural for me and I imagine there others out there that feel the same way. I don't think that makes you a bitch obviously there has to be factors other than looks involved for a relationship to endure.   It is hard to tell from this what you find unattractive about your boyfriend.  It appears it is something that  you believe other people notice.  Maybe he is shorter than you, overweight or even a different race.  If you have been with this man for awhile but you are slowly falling for him you are doing him a disservice.  You are not being honest with yourself or him.  I say move on and give him the chance to find some one that can reciprocate the love he deserves as a human being.  You need to find a man you are attracted to physically and emotionally.  It is possible.  At least that is what people tell me.
Latest Love
X