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Great Expectations: Can Birthday Partying Go Too Far?

Whether you begin counting down as soon the six-month mark passes or shrink at the coming of your birthday month, the anniversary of you is a reason to celebrate. But while some people eagerly broadcast the changing-of-their-age well in advance, others will let the day pass without fanfare, or even acknowledgment. They may even be (genuinely) mortified if a friend, co-worker, or Facebook leaks it. Maybe it has to do with introversion and extroversion, but some people are birthday people, and others simply aren't.

So when it comes to throwing your birthday bash, there is a great divide in how to go about it. Some won't plan anything — maybe concede to a dinner out with close friends (but do not draw attention with candles) — and others will plan their own party. While a few will go all out with a weekend party, a dinner on the actual day, and festivities in between.

I've heard of parades that go from house to bar and birthday charades that last all month long. So when planning your day, can it go too far? Or when it's your birthday, should you party as you want to?

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danakscully64 danakscully64 5 years
Thank You :)
Bettye-Wayne Bettye-Wayne 5 years
Happy birthday Dana!
danakscully64 danakscully64 5 years
Today is my birthday and I'm not having a party :( I want to, but I just moved to Florida and my family is in California, no friends here. I have Cheesecake setting in the fridge and I'm going to a vegan cafe for lunch, that's about it. I can understand a birthday week, but birthday month? No no no. :P It's up to the birthday girl/boy though.
Lyv Lyv 5 years
Too far ? What the hell does that mean ? You either like to party or you don't. There's no such thing as "celebrating your birthday too much" ? Personally, when I was in my early teens I was kind of shy and I never had enough friends to throw a decent party, so now that I do, I go crazy with it. Doesn't even have to be anyone's birthday lol. But when it's my special day, yes, I do have all-week-long celebrations because being alive is just that good. (:
KeLynns KeLynns 5 years
I do like to celebrate at least a little. Usually my family has dinner at my parents' house (and I get to pick the menu, which is awesome because I love my mom's cooking and rarely get it these days!). And for no real reason I tend to put a little more effort into looking cute on my birthday. If my birthday is during the week I'll usually do something a little celebratory the weekend before - go out to dinner with friends, or take a little weekend trip with my boyfriend. But it's nothing big, and honestly celebrating any more than what I do would seem like screaming "ME ME ME" which is not what I want to do.
boredgourdless boredgourdless 5 years
I like to celebrate my birthday, it's an excuse to go out with friends! I like to go out with girlfriends on a Friday or Saturday closest to my birthday, and then have dinner together with the family and hubby on the actual day.
elramos elramos 5 years
I definitely let my friends know when my birthday is, but I don't go around shouting it at work or school. I like to celebrate, whether it be a dinner, movie, party, whatever. I think a month long celebration is pushing it. I would be annoyed, if I knew someone who attempted to celebrate it that long.
Bettye-Wayne Bettye-Wayne 5 years
I am 100% serious about the birth month and the half birth month celebrations.
postmodernsleaze postmodernsleaze 5 years
^ Haha, I was thinking the same thing, mix tape :oy:
mix-tape mix-tape 5 years
Are you guys serious about the birthday month thing? I really can't tell.
Natalie-Love Natalie-Love 5 years
I do try to make it somewhat of a special day, going out to dinner somewhere nice with friends or my boyfriend, plus a celebration with my family the day before or after. My traditional Russian family loves making birthday dinner into a big event where relatives and friends are invited, and a lot of good Russian food is involved. I think though the night, mostly everyone forgets who's birthday is being celebrated and they just have a good time! When I am in a restaurant for my birthday, I never tell them, though! I would die of embarrassment if they sang me a song. :|
Bettye-Wayne Bettye-Wayne 5 years
I'm not a big fan of huge parties, but I do celebrate the whole month, many different nights out with different groups of friends/family. The first and last day of my birth month are always huge party days for me... and every day in between. And I'm certainly not shy about letting the whole world know it's the 8th day of my birth month (or whenever). I also celebrate my half-birth-month. It works out well because my b-day is Feb 14 and my litttle one's birthday is Aug 14th, so we're exactly 6 months apart.
runnereater runnereater 5 years
I don't like to broadcast my birthday. I've never really needed to make a big deal about my birthday. It's kind of like a test to see who remembers my birthday, so it really means something if someone remembers.
tatsauce tatsauce 5 years
Man I love birthdays! I like to celebrate the whole month too, doing something special on the weekends.
mix-tape mix-tape 5 years
One of my old roommates had a "birthday month" which was exactly that... The entire month of October was all about preparing for her actual day of birth, making up excuses for not doing something right or whatever because it was her month! It was absurd and she was completely serious about it. I, on the other hand, like to go to dinner with close friends or the guy I'm dating. Nothing too special. At work we get a cake at the end of the month and celebrate anyone who had a birthday then. It's pretty simple and drama free.
Yesi-Jukebox Yesi-Jukebox 5 years
I do know people who will party for 3-4 days straight or even the whole week..I on the other hand tried to do that for my 21st bday weekend and I made it through 2 days and just didn't show up to the club the 3rd day. I am usually a plan my own birthday party person but at this point I'm over it. I have planned every birthday so last year I took myself to San Francisco to see my cousin and this year i'm taking myself to a spa. If anyone wants to go to dinner or dancing they can make all the plans for me.
ktownpolarbear ktownpolarbear 5 years
i definitely like to keep it low key. i had a friend who would have a month long celebration with tons of events. i finally confronted her about it (seeing as how time consuming and expensive everything was), and she ended our friendship over it. i guess, everyone marches to their own drummer.
Pistil Pistil 5 years
I might go out for dinner with friends. I haven't had a party since my 13th birthday sleepover.
Girl-Jen Girl-Jen 5 years
There is NO such thing as too much birthday! And this is coming from an introvert. :D I love my birthday. I usually keep the celebrations low-key so that I can celebrate with my twin brother, who does not like parties one bit...but this year, I'm thinking of celebrating with him on the day of, and also planning a wild party for my friends sometime right around then.
French-Kiss French-Kiss 5 years
I just like to have my close friends around a dinner and a movie at home, that kinda simple thing (cause i love to talk, so i need people to be able to XD)
postmodernsleaze postmodernsleaze 5 years
I don't like it because I hate feeling like the spotlight/main focus/the main attraction. I'm quite shy though. I don't like the feeling of being the center of attention and when people go all out on their birthdays, it's just one big celebration of themselves. I like going out for other people's birthdays, I just don't like making a deal of my own. But, again, I am a wallflower that likes being a wallflower.
Bailey-Bloom Bailey-Bloom 5 years
Why don't you want to do anything? My guy friend who is 23 doesn't want to celebrate his birthday! His reasoning was he didn't want people to have to plan stuff for him because it might be a hassle.
postmodernsleaze postmodernsleaze 5 years
I'm super low-key about my birthday. I reluctantly go to dinner with my close friends because they won't settle for me doing nothing.
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