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Like many women, my best friend is a guy. I will call him John; he is sweet, charming, my knight in shining armour. He has been my rock through and through for years and I am just as dedicated to him.
I do not have a boyfriend; it's been four years since I've had one. I often joke that I don't need one, as I have my "John" . . . here lately even I'm not buying that. True John and I go on dates, and even have taken vacations together! But I am female. I want an intimate relationship! I want to be wooed and wanted, loved by a boyfriend! (Before the assumptions are made, John and I have never had more than a kiss on the cheek, and he has had girlfriends during our friendship. It's platonic all the way around.)
I am lucky, and I wouldn't give up John for the world, but at the same time other friends have told me they think he is holding me back from meeting other men. When I ask them to explain themselves, they all pretty much say "he just is" . . . I don't see it. I love John very much, and will admit, he has set the bar for the way I want any man in my life to treat me . . . is this a bad thing? Is he holding me back?