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"Awkward Aftermath of Skype Truth or Dare"

This question is from a Group Therapy post in our community. Add your advice in the comments!

I was chatting with my friends from another state for the second time via Skype. Everything was fine and fun until they proposed truth or dare. I chose truth and they chose dare so I dared them, the two guys, to peck on the lips. (There are 4 guys there.)

Anyways, after the one guy that I never knew until that night dared me to take off my shirt. It made things REALLY REALLY awkward. The only good part of the story is that the guy I have been digging on (despite the fact he lives so far away) was like, "No man I'd feel like a douche. Plus she's like my friend! I'm going to leave the room if she does it."

But I did not flash them because that would have been very weird. Anyway, the conversation died after I stalled for time and said no. It was complete silence so I quickly escaped! The guy that I said I was digging on, messaged me apologizing after. I don't even know how to react to this situation? Could I ever Skype with them again after this awkward occurrence? I need advice and input people!

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Burkina Burkina 4 years
Doesn't sound awkward at all. You didn't want to strip so you left, I doubt they will hold it against you. They would've done the same.
Venus1 Venus1 4 years
I really do not think this is a big deal. Here, most of us take our tops off on the beach anyway and nobody makes a big thing of it, male or female. And in this case you kept your top on!
looseseal looseseal 4 years
Pardon me if I'm not remembering the game of truth or dare correctly... if you're dared to do something you don't want to do, don't you just move right on to having to tell the truth about something?Sounds like you were playing a pretty risque version of truth of dare, so in that context it wasn't too much of a reach for requests of shirt removal to be made. But as in actual sex, you're still within your rights to refuse to do anything you really don't want to do. They could have refused to kiss, too.It's only a game. By this I mean I wouldn't have taken my shirt off in front of a bunch of guys for the sake of a stupid game, either.Anyway, I haven't played truth or dare since we entered this technologically advanced age where people can easily take a picture/video of you and post it all over the internet. Haha.
looseseal looseseal 4 years
Pardon me if I'm not remembering the game of truth or dare correctly... if you're dared to do something you don't want to do, don't you just move right on to having to tell the truth about something? Sounds like you were playing a pretty risque version of truth of dare, so in that context it wasn't too much of a reach for requests of shirt removal to be made. But as in actual sex, you're still within your rights to refuse to do anything you really don't want to do. They could have refused to kiss, too. It's only a game. By this I mean I wouldn't have taken my shirt off in front of a bunch of guys for the sake of a stupid game, either. Anyway, I haven't played truth or dare since we entered this technologically advanced age where people can easily take a picture/video of you and post it all over the internet. Haha.
postmodernsleaze postmodernsleaze 4 years
How old are you? Anyway, you didn't take your shirt off and the guy you like respects you enough to tell his friends he wouldn't be down with it, plus he apologized after. I don't really see the problem here? And the next time you decide to play Truth or Dare with a bunch of dudes, expect some risque requests, especially if you're requesting them as well (you did ask two dudes to kiss, remember?)
postmodernsleaze postmodernsleaze 4 years
How old are you?Anyway, you didn't take your shirt off and the guy you like respects you enough to tell his friends he wouldn't be down with it, plus he apologized after. I don't really see the problem here?And the next time you decide to play Truth or Dare with a bunch of dudes, expect some risque requests, especially if you're requesting them as well (you did ask two dudes to kiss, remember?)
jazzytummy jazzytummy 4 years
You made a mistake...we all do. The guy that you like seems pretty decent though. Just tell him that it went a bit too far for your comfort level, but you appreciate his concern for you. I would tell him that the experience overall made you realize how much you would like to spend Skype time with him alone. Since he is the one that you like, and he appears to like you as well, this will make him feel better and also give you two the opportunity to get to know each other without junior high games. After a little time passes, and this blows over, you can bring the other guys back in for friendly conversation, if they are truly friends and you want to maintain contact with them. Whatever you do, once you talk to him about it, let it go. DO NOT DWELL on it or bring it up again. Good luck.
jazzytummy jazzytummy 4 years
You made a mistake...we all do. The guy that you like seems pretty decent though. Just tell him that it went a bit too far for your comfort level, but you appreciate his concern for you. I would tell him that the experience overall made you realize how much you would like to spend Skype time with him alone. Since he is the one that you like, and he appears to like you as well, this will make him feel better and also give you two the opportunity to get to know each other without junior high games. After a little time passes, and this blows over, you can bring the other guys back in for friendly conversation, if they are truly friends and you want to maintain contact with them. Whatever you do, once you talk to him about it, let it go. DO NOT DWELL on it or bring it up again.Good luck.
RoaringSilence RoaringSilence 4 years
what is this I don't even
RoaringSilence RoaringSilence 4 years
what is this I don't even
KateAthens KateAthens 4 years
Agree 100% with Betty and Pistil.
KateAthens KateAthens 4 years
Agree 100% with Betty and Pistil.
Pistil Pistil 4 years
Yeah, I don't know what you expected playing truth or dare with a bunch of boys online. Maybe you're too young to remember chat rooms where every other pm was a request to cyber? Or that boys will be boys.
Bettye-Wayne Bettye-Wayne 4 years
You made two men kiss and you're worried about taking your shirt off? You either don't know what truth or dare is or you have serious boundary issues- as in no one needs boundaries but you. Did you seriously think they WEREN'T going to ask you to take your shirt off? This guy sounds like a nice guy, you just need to not put yourself in such an awkward situation again.
Bettye-Wayne Bettye-Wayne 4 years
You made two men kiss and you're worried about taking your shirt off? You either don't know what truth or dare is or you have serious boundary issues- as in no one needs boundaries but you. Did you seriously think they WEREN'T going to ask you to take your shirt off?This guy sounds like a nice guy, you just need to not put yourself in such an awkward situation again.
Helen-Danger Helen-Danger 4 years
You did great, hon. Don't worry about it. Maybe restrict Skype to people you already know. And I'd stay away from Mr. Flash. You stated a limit. Which is good and completely your right as a woman. If anyone should feel awkward it's that guy for being so rude. In the future, don't play truth or dare with a bunch of guys--unless you state a bunch of rules and limitations up front and are ready to enforce them. As you've seen, the tone can quickly turn sexual.
Helen-Danger Helen-Danger 4 years
You did great, hon. Don't worry about it. Maybe restrict Skype to people you already know. And I'd stay away from Mr. Flash. You stated a limit. Which is good and completely your right as a woman. If anyone should feel awkward it's that guy for being so rude. In the future, don't play truth or dare with a bunch of guys--unless you state a bunch of rules and limitations up front and are ready to enforce them. As you've seen, the tone can quickly turn sexual.
pax4pax pax4pax 4 years
Stay away. The guy who refused to participate is right -- this is just voyeurism and an exploitation of you. Respect yourself. For real men, those worth your attention, you don't have to flash them to get their attention. Your worth more than that.
pax4pax pax4pax 4 years
Stay away. The guy who refused to participate is right -- this is just voyeurism and an exploitation of you.Respect yourself. For real men, those worth your attention, you don't have to flash them to get their attention. Your worth more than that.
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