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Preemptive Couples Counseling

Would You Go to Preemptive Couples Counseling?

Even if you'd rather talk to a friend than a therapist for your own problems, it's good to have an uninterested third party when navigating your trickier relationship differences. Yet some couples go to counseling before the problems even start.

My friend and her boyfriend know they want to married, but they're seeing a psychologist once a week for couples counseling before they do anything binding. They want to hash out some differences and work on their communication. It seems like a smart idea to me, but my other friend sees it as a big red flag.

Would you see a couples counselor to ward off problems before they get too big?

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Bettye-Wayne Bettye-Wayne 5 years
rj cost would be a factor, I wasn't even thinking of that when I answered. amber what book was that?
Bettye-Wayne Bettye-Wayne 5 years
rj cost would be a factor, I wasn't even thinking of that when I answered.amber what book was that?
amber512 amber512 5 years
My husband and I didn't offically do couple's counseling. But we did buy this book with over 1,000 questions and we sat down and talked about every aspect of our lives. What we wanted out of life, whether we wanted children, when and how many, etc. etc. etc. We were engaged for a good 18 months and really got down to the nitty gritty of who we are!
Rjs-baby-girl Rjs-baby-girl 5 years
I don't think I would go to counseling if we don't have any problem to solve. Minor things we can work on by ourselves, if we ever had a big issue that threatens our marriage then I would want us to go. Why wanting to fix something that isn't broken? It'd be a waste of money for me.
Bettye-Wayne Bettye-Wayne 5 years
I think I would, I'm a big fan of counseling already and it sounds like a great foundation for a long healthy marriage. Sort of off topic, my cuz had this live-in-boyfriend, they fought like there was no tomorrow, I tried to talk them into counseling and he made decent $$$$$ and said he would pay for it. The next day, new pair of shoes. Idiot. This man had a nice pair of shoes in every color of the rainbow and now they're married-and-divorced less than six months later.
Bettye-Wayne Bettye-Wayne 5 years
I think I would, I'm a big fan of counseling already and it sounds like a great foundation for a long healthy marriage.Sort of off topic, my cuz had this live-in-boyfriend, they fought like there was no tomorrow, I tried to talk them into counseling and he made decent $$$$$ and said he would pay for it. The next day, new pair of shoes. Idiot. This man had a nice pair of shoes in every color of the rainbow and now they're married-and-divorced less than six months later.
onlysourcherry onlysourcherry 5 years
I think it's a great idea, especially since my boyfriend and I won't move in together until were at least engaged. I don't know how jazzed he'd be about the idea, but I know a few (great and drama free) couples who have done this.
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