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Prince William and Kate Middleton Inviting Exes to Wedding

Putting an Ex on Your Wedding Guest List — a Do or a Don't?

It may feel like the polite thing to do, but the real awkwardness is for the invited ex. Say no, and you fear it will be read into; say yes, and you have to actually go. Oddly, though, British royal etiquette encourages brides and grooms to invite exes.

"In the British royal family, which follows rules of etiquette established hundreds of years ago, it’s just fine to invite exes, people who broke your heart or, vice versa, friends with benefits, those you lived with for years — all the 'almosts' from your single life."

Prince Charles invited numerous exes to his first wedding, and now both Kate Middleton and Prince William have put their "almosts" on the list. Kate is inviting her first boyfriend Rupert Finch, who's described by The New York Times as a "dark-haired, olive-skinned polo player who looks like a Calvin Klein model." While William's inviting four of his previous girlfriends, just the serious ones though!

One reason British royalty welcomes exes is because holding onto hostility is traditionally seen as beneath them. Besides, high society in England is a small world, so there's incentive to maintain positive relationships. "It's shrewd to be extra-considerate to your exes, said William Norwich, a special correspondent at Town and Country magazine. "Keep your exes close. Like keeping your enemies close."

Thankfully, most of us don't have that kind of pressure! So for those of us outside British high society, is inviting exes to weddings ever a good idea or is it always a don't?

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testadura67 testadura67 5 years
It depends on what kind of relationship you've maintained. If you're friends with your ex or still in the same social circle, and ***your fiance is ok with it***, then sure. But I wouldn't go looking up exes I barely speak to anymore just to invite them to my wedding to prove I'm over them.
common-sense common-sense 5 years
Only the insecure wouldnt invite their exes. Its the mature thing to do especially if you have some sort of ty still to them like friends family kids even. People need to group up & mature. As the saying goes the past is the past move on & what better way then to make the effort to show that you over them and that regardless of the past you or how things ended your mature enough to put it aside. Of course this is also assuming that you feel the other person is mature & acts their age or older themselves. IF not then obviously dont invite them people are so self center & selfish what happened to the days of etiquette, chivilry, & true gentry? After all exs still played a part in who you were & are its the grown up thing to do but since when is any american under 50 actually act grown up anymore. Tragic.
prrrtykittie prrrtykittie 5 years
Two of my exes were at my wedding and it was awesome. Both are now great friends and have even stayed at my place with my husband for a few days. He is very secure and knows I love him more than anything, and that these guys are just a part of my past, at least romantically.
kimmieb124 kimmieb124 5 years
It depends on the relationship with the ex and how the bride and groom feel about it. As long as the relationship is positive and there are no longer any residual omantic feelings, then I don't see the big deal.
lickety-split lickety-split 5 years
hopefully you would want them there, if only because they WERE an important part of your past. they helped you become the person you are today. sadly, i think its pretty common to not have great memories of your ex's.
lickety-split lickety-split 5 years
hopefully you would want them there, if only because they WERE an important part of your past. they helped you become the person you are today. sadly, i think its pretty common to not have great memories of your ex's.
amber512 amber512 5 years
Totally depends on the relationships between everyone.
onlysourcherry onlysourcherry 5 years
Two of my boyfriend's exes would probably be at our wedding... one from middle school and another from freshman year of high school. They're both good friends of ours and there is absolutely nothing romantic there. I don't think I'd invite any of mine, or that I'd be okay with him inviting anyone from 17 years old after. But it's all situational.
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