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Group Therapy: Should I Buy My Boyfriend a Promise Ring?

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I was planning on only buying my boyfriend a promise ring for Christmas — but not one for me as well so if he wants, he can get my one later on. Is there a specific type of ring/metal that turns a finger green because I don't want to spend too much on a ring, because I also have other gifts to pick out for him, but I don't want it to seem cheap. Also, I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT HIS RING SIZE IS! He has large hands and I can't ask without giving something away. He might think I'm proposing if I ask haha. Any suggestions or general ideas of the typical ring size for a guy? Thanks everyone!

Although, we have discussed marriage in our far future so this idea isn't too pushy. Do you think this is a good idea?

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chrissy18 chrissy18 4 years
I just got my boyfriend a promise ring and I know he'll love - I say do it !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
cdelaney cdelaney 4 years
I agree with the majority of the comments above. Don't do it. It will ruin whatever you have going with him. It is a serious hint that seems to echo of hopeful reciprocation. What pressure! If you have already discussed a future together, wait for him to give you an engagement ring.
GTCB GTCB 4 years
Buying him a promise ring is a bad idea. Buying him one and giving it as a Christmas gift takes a bad idea and turns it into a terrible idea. ...unless you're trying to sabotage your relationship?
bisou002 bisou002 4 years
I'm afraid I agree with the majority of commenters here - don't do it. He might feel emasculated if you give him a promise ring. Let the ring-buying be in his court!
steph1234 steph1234 4 years
I like jenjen's idea of engraving a watch for him. That is a really good idea...I think if you gave him a promise ring, he may see it as a hint that you want a ring....which I think could make the whole situation awkward. Another thought - if he is at all manly, then he will be weirded out by this. I could see this working only if he was extremely feminine.
jenjen82 jenjen82 4 years
This is NOT a good idea!! No offense, but just don't. Guys don't give a rats ass about a promise ring. It's corny and I can just see his guy friends making fun of him for wearing something so dorky. A watch is a much better idea and having it engraved would be perfect.
onlysourcherry onlysourcherry 4 years
This is a really bad plan. Buy him an xbox.
pink-elephant pink-elephant 4 years
I would agree and say that unless marriage is in the plans, don't do it. It may have the potential to freak him out and think that you are in a way...proposing. Which in a way, you kind of are. If you are looking for something sentimental, perhaps get him a nice watch and have it engraved. However, to answer your question on the ring size deal should you decide to go through with it, then I would say the best way is to actually find out his measurement somehow, maybe enlist his friends and family to help? Still I have heard others say you base the ring size on the shoe size, but I don't think it's all that accurate as it certainly wasn't with my by a half-size.
GZO GZO 4 years
I don't think that a ring is a good idea. If you want to get him something that symbolizes the promise of a future together, try and think of something else. My ex boyfriend gave me a ring for Christmas, but we had both discussed wanting to be with each other for the rest of our lives, and I told him I would wear a pre-engagement ring if he got me one. Thankfully, we broke up after a year of me wearing that ring, but that's a different story. Is there some special thing you've talked about that has to do with your future? Possibly a silly example, but, for instance, maybe you've talked about getting a dog together. Buy him a dog collar. (A totally non-kinky one though, haha.) Say with a smile, I know it won't be for a while, but I am promising you that one day, it will happen. Or something to that effect that is less cheesy. You get the idea. If there is nothing solid that you guys have talked about pertaining to your future, then maybe you should really reconsider the "promise" gift and let things grow a bit more. Totally agree with zabrow: "talking about marriage someday in the far off future does not a real promise make."
BrownEyedBabe BrownEyedBabe 4 years
Unless you have really discussed marrige and think he would really like a ring, I would say no. Since you are not 100% sure that this would be something he would like, I would say don't do it. It may scare him. My boyfriend and I will be engaged in a few months and when we go out he loves to put his ring on his ring finger. I knew that he really wanted a nicer ring to wear so I got him an inexpensive titanium wedding band that he loves. He teared up when I gave it to him and he loves showing it off. It all depends on the guy. If you really think he'd like one, take one of his rings to the jewelers to get it sized.
zabrow zabrow 4 years
nope. don't do it. it seems more like a high school age group type thing. talking about marriage someday in the far off future does not a real promise make.
kurniakasih kurniakasih 4 years
Hmmm...And unless your bf is big on jewelry, jewelry for guys are an unusual gift, unless it's a watch. Does you bf wear rings, bracelets, earrings and such?
njau njau 4 years
I 100% agree with Joe. I'm traditional in that sense where it should be the man to decide on proposing and even promising himself to you. You'll just be stepping on his toes especially if you have discusses marriage. It's a great thought but it may just come off as too pushy I'm also trying to remember which movie or tv show that had the girl propose to the guy and it didn't go off as planned. Yes I understand tv is not real life but just be patient. Maybe get him a chain instead n
JoeTyndall JoeTyndall 4 years
OP, Allow me to give you a man's perspective. Wait for him to buy you an engagement ring.
mnp mnp 4 years has a lot of unique rings that can be customized. Metals and materials ranges from stainless steel, titantium, ceramic or wood. You'll have a plethora of options to choose from within your budget. As for Tue sizing, there is no way to figure out the size of your bf's finger unless you have him measure it. And, the non-gold option are often hard to resize. Maybe you can get a gift certificate? // I don't know if this is a good idea because only you know your bf best. However, my guy friends (married, enaged and single) and my own boyfriend would not wear a promise ring. This is a general consensus between a group of 25-30 year olds.
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