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Pull and Pray - NOT Good Birth Control

Being in a monogamous sexual relationship can be one of life's greatest pleasures, especially when you have both been tested for STIs and you know that you are disease-free. That means you don't have to use condoms when you have sex, but you do need to use another form of birth control if you don't want to get pregnant.

It's been brought to my attention that some couples are using the Pull and Pray Method, also known as Withdrawal. This incredibly risky approach means right before the guy reaches orgasm, he pulls out and ejaculates outside of the woman (and they both pray that she doesn't get pregnant). But ladies and gentlemen, this is NOT an effective form of birth control. This is a pregnancy just waiting to happen.

Why you might ask? Ever heard of pre-ejaculation? It's also known as pre-cum, and it's a liquid that comes out of a man's penis (without his control) before he ejaculates. It can contain sperm so while you don't think your partner is ejaculating inside you, it only takes one little sperm to get you pregnant.

Also, some men have a difficult time controlling their ejaculations -- some don't know when it's coming, and some don't know how to make it stop long enough to pull out of the woman. Having the woman put all her trust in the man withdrawing in time just isn't worth trusting in the Pull and Pray Method -- all in all, it's just a bad idea.

Dear's Advice: Don't have unprotected sex ever unless you want to have a baby! Get yourself a reliable, effective, and consistent form of birth control. The Pill is great if you can remember to take it. Condoms are great if you don't want to remember to take the Pill and there's also the Patch and the NuvaRing if you only want to worry about your birth control once a month. Whatever you choose, just make sure to use it!

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MsShona MsShona 4 years
Pull and Pray has worked for me for over a year. However my BF has a good amount of self-control. My guess is that the sperm count in different men's pre-c-m differs.
aeschere aeschere 7 years
this is what my boyfriend and i use. normally i'm on the patch too, but i haven't been for almost a year now and i've not gotten pregnant or had any scares. however, i am prepared for the consequences... this method definitely isn't a suggestion for girls who don't want ANY chance of getting knocked up.
eightieslingo eightieslingo 9 years
My husband and I have been married for 1 1/2 years and we've used this method for more than a year. I was on the pill and it made my periods worse, I tried several different kinds then I just gave up on them. He is really good at controlling himself. As soon as he feels like he's even a tiny bit close to c__ing, he will pull out. He never pulls out and comes right after that, because he's really good at controlling it. I know this method is not a good one, but it's been working for us so far. I wouldn't really mind if it got me pregnant. I would not recommend this for anyone who doesn't want kids right now.
myseclectika myseclectika 9 years
My boyfriend of 14 months and I tried condoms-- they broke several times and I discovered I am allergic to latex. I won't use sheepskin not only because it is porous and far less effective but the thought of that on him and inside me is just gross. I was on the pill for several months but I stopped when my prescription ran out because it was making my periods worse... we have been using this 'ineffective' method for several months with no problems. It's simply a matter of trust and self-control.
Emiily Emiily 9 years
My boyfriend and I currently use this method, I don't like it but I don't know what else to do. We don't want to use condoms. We are monogamous and STD free. I tried birthcontrol but couldn't handle the hormones. I've already gotten pregnant once in the past few months and had an abortion. We are being careful, he pulls out way before he ejaculates. But like I said, I don't like this method. It makes me nervous. I'll figure something out soon, I need a non hormonal birth control. I'll look those up online right now.
Amanda-La Amanda-La 9 years
Well I've been playing pull and pray with my hubby for two years and still no baby! But honestly I want one so that's my secret sneaky way, I hope it happens!
ErieIndiana ErieIndiana 9 years
Condoms are NOT 99% effective. They are about 85% effective if used correctly (i.e. it doesn't break or leak, it is put on before the penis goes anywhere NEAR the vagina). If you choose to have sex use at least two forms of birth control. Planned Parenthood will give you free birth control pills and condoms if you are not able to afford them yourself. Spermicide is not to be used by those women who easily get yeast infections. To further prevent infection (UTI's specificially) it is a good idea to urinate after sex. And just to clear the record Douching does NOT prevent pregnancy or infections.
Greggie Greggie 9 years
JessBear, NFP (which is based on ovulation cycles) does not require regular cycles. It's based on your fertile signs, NOT counting. It is not the same as the rhythm method, which is counting alone.
nessabum nessabum 9 years
there is always a slim chance of pregnancy with every method (sometimes even with sterilization if it's not done right). abstinence is 100% effective. and man, i sound preachy and i don't practice what i preach either. :P and JessBear, your calculations are enough to freak everyone out.
JessBear JessBear 9 years
demonkitty18: methods based on your ovualtion cycle are only effective if your cycle is regular. Condoms are great if you can't take the pill, but try and find a secondary form of b.c., too. Spermicide's a great ADDITION to condoms- not so great by itself. You can buy it in little spray cans, or even get condoms that have a spermicidal lube. The way I figure it, you can never be too careful- I mean, a 99% effectiveness rate means you're likely to get pregnant 1 in 100 times. If you have sex three times a week, you'll hit 100 times in 8 months.
demonkitty18 demonkitty18 9 years
ok, where I live, the pill is illegal so we rely on condoms but they're supposed to be 97% effective? and how do you use these other methods if your menstrual cycle is irregular?
c0rkie c0rkie 9 years
hear hear!
RUD3GIRL-2K7 RUD3GIRL-2K7 9 years
My friend is 14 nd she thought she was preget because she has been sleeping with her boyfriend. i was scared for her and she took a test , luncy she wasn't possive but she never done unsafe sex Ever sence that day
Casimira Casimira 9 years
"Pull and pray"/the "rhythm method" is not the same as Natural Family Planning, which is when you don't have sex when you're ovulating. NFP requires a bit of work, but can be 90-98% effective (depending on the study), can be used to achieve or avoid pregnancy, and does not require added chemicals or hormones. Here is an overview of NFP: http://familydoctor.org/online/famdocen/home/women/contraceptive/126.html Here is an example of a sympto-thermal NFP chart (not mine :) ): http://www.contracept.info/nfpchart.php
samischo samischo 9 years
Unfortunately, I have done this before with my boyfriend. Afterwards, I was 3 weeks late getting my period; during that time, I was freaking out! I couldn't believe I was that stupid - it is not a good idea.
sw2190 sw2190 9 years
meh im on the pill, my bfs clean an ive only had sex with him. our 1 yr aniversary today and haha yes worry free sex was great!
esk4 esk4 9 years
Ok yes thre is a slim chance you can get preg on the pill, ESPECIALLY is you do not take it EXACTLY as prescribed. As some of you have said the pill is 99% effective, and from what I've read in the info thingy with my pill it is estimated that 5% of pill takers do not take the pill exactly as perscribed... so I think its safe to say that most of the 1% of pregnancies come from people not using it correctly. so if you are using the pill corectly you shouldn't worry about getting knocked up.
esk4 esk4 9 years
Ok yes thre is a slim chance you can get preg on the pill, ESPECIALLY is you do not take it EXACTLY as prescribed. As some of you have said the pill is 99% effective, and from what I've read in the info thingy with my pill it is estimated that 5% of pill takers do not take the pill exactly as perscribed... so I think its safe to say that most of the 1% of pregnancies come from people not using it correctly. so if you are using the pill corectly you shouldn't worry about getting knocked up.
t0xxic t0xxic 9 years
UMM you can get preggo ont he pill patch or anything else its all chance but there are less chances. Ok so heres the deal we did the pull out method for 6 months. It worked. And then after that I didnt have to worry for 9 months :)
lanuchan lanuchan 9 years
i do this sometimes...with my boyfriend but we're definitely not ready to get pregnant! =0 so condoms 100% of the time now...sometimes we just forget..bad bad, i know, shame on me.
sugar-n-spice sugar-n-spice 9 years
is rhythm affective?
sugar-n-spice sugar-n-spice 9 years
is rhythm affective?
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