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Sunday Confessional: He Wants to Get Married, but I Don't

This week's confession comes from our anonymous Confession Booth group in the TrèsSugar Community. Weigh in with your advice below.

I have been dating a guy for 7.5 years. We have not married yet because we met when I was very young — just 16. Now that I'm 24, he has been saying things like "We should get married soon." Even though I'm very happy and touched that he wants to marry me, I feel like I am not ready to marry him.

Part of it is because I myself do not feel mature and ready to be in marriage, to be someone's wife. I feel as though that is a whole new set of responsibilities, despite how long we have already been together, and I need more time to ready myself mentally.

But secondly, I also I feel like I'm not 100% sure about entering a marriage with a few current things going on in our relationship. Sometimes I feel like I can't absolutely trust every single word coming out of his mouth, and sometimes he seems to doubt what I say too. We have had a history where we both caught the other person lying a few times. Plus he's in a career highly popular with women wanting a piece of him (and his co-workers) and in order to fit in with them he is required to spend a lot of time partying and they always bring a lot of beautiful, sexy women to the parties. That in itself makes me hesitate.

On top of it all, I am a jealous and insecure person, and I want to conquer those inner devils the best I can before I step into a life-long commitment.

At this point I have probably made you all think that I'm a mess and so is our relationship, but I would still like some honest advice. Thanks in advance for even reading all this.

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