We're happy to present this excerpt from one of our favorite sites, HowAboutWe. Think dating younger men is just for "cougars"? Think again.
You want to date someone who appreciates you. Someone with his sh*t together. Someone mature, evolved. Ready to take you seriously. The problem is, you think that person has to be older than you. But you're wrong. Just as chronological age doesn't always "cure" one of immaturity, a man can be all of these things and still be 24, 28, 30 (depending on what you consider young). You just need to give him a chance.
You've told yourself you don't really want a younger man. You use it as a reason to blow them off, pare back your options, and fuel embittered stories about how It's So Hard to Meet Good Men. But that's not a power position, and it does you no favors.
Why to Date a Younger Man
He's bored with girls his own age. If there's one complaint I hear from younger men — and the reason they're interested in older women, is that they're a little tired of the same old scene and games. They're very into the idea of spending time with a woman who brings a little more to the table — a whole world of experience and interests outside of his own. He's not dumb because he's 27. He's smarter than you think and would welcome a grown-up conversation, not to mention a mature relationship.
He's not just out to hit it and quit it. To say men JUST want sex, especially young men, isn't a fair assessment. They've been having sex for years, and it's not like they can't get it if they want it. They may be less inclined to marry right away or at all, perhaps, but that's not the same as not wanting a real relationship. And many desperately do.
He thinks you're hot. Stop it with the "Oh, but he probably wants some 21-year-old chick with perfect breasts." There will always be scores of young hot girls roaming the planet. You're wrong to think he couldn't be turned on by you. Guys aren't all looking for a girl off a billboard. Men like curves — and the women who bear them with an air of self-possession and desire. Guys like pleasing women and being enjoyed by a woman who appreciates them. You know your body, what makes it tick, and what turns it on and makes it happy. He's really, really into that.
For four more reasons to expand your dating pool, head over to HowAboutWe: Why You Should Date a Younger Man
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