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Relationship Protocol: How Often Does He Compliment You?

There’s something extra meaningful when you get praise from a significant other. Of course, a compliment is always nice, but when it comes from your loved one, it tends to hold more meaning. That kind of positive energy really goes a long way in keeping the romance alive. How often do you get compliments and praise from your significant other?

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swats-jk swats-jk 5 years
Never!!! he hasn't complimented me yet, though we are in a relation for more than 5 years.....
ilanac13 ilanac13 7 years
well he tells me that i look 'pretty' every day so to me as nice of a gesture it is, it doesn't seem like it's really anything...i guess. i know that sounds kind of bad to those women who don't get compliments all the time, but it's just not the same thing.
italianblonde italianblonde 7 years
Wow I thought the comments in here would be quite the opposite..but I guess I am in the minority. Compliments are kind of rare in my case. But I agree with blckout200
bloomsgal8 bloomsgal8 7 years
I get "I love you's" couple times a day, but compliments every once in a while, they have died off in the past 4 years. Honestly, it really bugs me sometimes and I hate that because it makes me feel shallow. But I take time to look nice and its so frustrating if he doesnt really say anything...Be happy you guys are compliments spoiled =)
bloomsgal8 bloomsgal8 7 years
I get "I love you's" couple times a day, but compliments every once in a while, they have died off in the past 4 years. Honestly, it really bugs me sometimes and I hate that because it makes me feel shallow. But I take time to look nice and its so frustrating if he doesnt really say anything... Be happy you guys are compliments spoiled =)
babysoftpink babysoftpink 7 years
true, I was brought up in a family that doing excellent is expected, doing poorly even when you tried very hard is unacceptable, hence punishments are given more in non-complimentary ways. The reasoning is you are expected to do well so we can't compliment you for something you are expected to do. I recognize this and trying to live out of this. It's been difficult there are lots of things that parents did I would have never ever done to my child if I have one.
blckout200 blckout200 7 years
Addendum to my previous comment.Paying someone a compliment can be a very natural practice for some people. However, many people may find giving a compliment difficult. Giving compliments is critical to building relationships and encouraging other people. It is easy once you have an idea of how to go about it.Understand that giving a compliment does not mean that you should expect one in return. A sincere compliment is meant to be giving simply for the uplifting of the other person and not as a means to receive one yourself.
blckout200 blckout200 7 years
Addendum to my previous comment. Paying someone a compliment can be a very natural practice for some people. However, many people may find giving a compliment difficult. Giving compliments is critical to building relationships and encouraging other people. It is easy once you have an idea of how to go about it. Understand that giving a compliment does not mean that you should expect one in return. A sincere compliment is meant to be giving simply for the uplifting of the other person and not as a means to receive one yourself.
blckout200 blckout200 7 years
Some people find it hard to give compliments as well as receive them. Perhaps they were brought up in an environment where family members didn't vocalize their feelings all the time. So if you're brought up in this type of environment that's what you learn to do.I think if you constantly hear compliments 24/7 the words spoken tend to lose meaning. I agree with the comment above that showing someone how you feel is a lot better than saying it. Remember that saying "Actions speak louder than words". And when you do receive a compliment it puts more meaning into it.Also, you could also take the first step and compliment your significant other first. After awhile they'll (hopefully) catch on and start paying more compliments to you...again you don't want this to turn into a broken record. It's kind of like waiting to hear the "L" word...sometimes you just have to stop being stubborn and be the first to say it.
blckout200 blckout200 7 years
Some people find it hard to give compliments as well as receive them. Perhaps they were brought up in an environment where family members didn't vocalize their feelings all the time. So if you're brought up in this type of environment that's what you learn to do. I think if you constantly hear compliments 24/7 the words spoken tend to lose meaning. I agree with the comment above that showing someone how you feel is a lot better than saying it. Remember that saying "Actions speak louder than words". And when you do receive a compliment it puts more meaning into it. Also, you could also take the first step and compliment your significant other first. After awhile they'll (hopefully) catch on and start paying more compliments to you...again you don't want this to turn into a broken record. It's kind of like waiting to hear the "L" word...sometimes you just have to stop being stubborn and be the first to say it.
bikinib7 bikinib7 7 years
I agree with babysoftpink. I usually roll my eyes or act annoyed with my boyfriend when he makes these comments. Deep down, I really really appreciate them.. but I have a hard time accepting praise/compliments.
babysoftpink babysoftpink 7 years
don't remember when.. perhaps that is why I am not with anyone. On the other hand, I do struggle with accepting praises. For me, no matter what I do in life, it always feels that I could do it better and I have not done enough. Also, the praises also do not seem enough no matter how many times it was said. I would shoot back, "Really?" or "Are you sure?" then I would follow up with an explanation as to why the compliment is not accurately given. I don't have problems praising others but have trouble receiving them when given to me.
babysoftpink babysoftpink 7 years
don't remember when.. perhaps that is why I am not with anyone. On the other hand, I do struggle with accepting praises. For me, no matter what I do in life, it always feels that I could do it better and I have not done enough. Also, the praises also do not seem enough no matter how many times it was said. I would shoot back, "Really?" or "Are you sure?" then I would follow up with an explanation as to why the compliment is not accurately given. I don't have problems praising others but have trouble receiving them when given to me.
bikinib7 bikinib7 7 years
He gives me compliments and I love you's throughout the entire day.. I, on the other hand, cannot seem to give the compliments as often. I am just not very natural at doing it? I love when we are in complete silence, watching TV or driving, and he just stares at me and says "You are so beautiful".. Ohh, I love him soo much.
havok636 havok636 7 years
every now and then he'll say something. i like it that way. it makes them even more special
havok636 havok636 7 years
every now and then he'll say something.i like it that way.it makes them even more special
psterling psterling 7 years
All the time, I can't even count how many times in a day. I'm totally spoiled.
Sugasuga12 Sugasuga12 7 years
it used to be a lot now he hardly does, he is a WONDERFUL man but he does more acting then talking...She shows me he loves me but i am a girl of course i want to hear him say he loves me everyday and tell me that i am beautiful.. he tells I am gorgeous and beautiful sometimes. And also not trying to sounds conceited but I get hit by guys ALL THE TIME... but it would be nice to hear it from my husband more often..
karen408 karen408 7 years
We say I love you pretty much every time we talk by phone, or see each other, but not in an off-hand, rote manner...like we really mean it, b/c we do. We know we are lucky to have found each other. He compliments my cooking all the time :-) but just doesn't notice my appearance often enough to compliment it!
karlotta karlotta 7 years
Every twenty seconds. For the past 3 years.
Erica-Wesley Erica-Wesley 7 years
MY MAN TELLS ME HE LOVES ME ALL THE TIME BUT COMLIMENTS ME EVERY ONCE IN A WHILE BUT ALWAYS TELL ME I HAVE A BEAUTIFUL SMILE,BUT IF HE TOLD ME ALL THE TIME, I WOULD THINK SOMETHING WRONG,WHY BECAUSE HE NOT THAT TYPE OF GUY TO ALWAYS TELL ME HOW SEXY I AM.
platinum89 platinum89 7 years
mine hardly compliments me.. he too doesn't really vocalize what he feels. but it doesn't bother me at all. it reminds me constantly why you're with someone... its not superficial at all and just based on attraction. i'm not saying people on here are being superficial... don't get me wrong! i think that showing someone how you feel is a lot better than saying it, which is what he does. he told me before we were even official that he wasn't just attracted to my appearance, but who I was and my personality. one time his friend asked him if he thought this other girl was cute, and he said yes. after his friend left he said 'but you have nothing to worry about, your much much cuter.' that meant a lot to me. i feel if a guy says it constantly to me, its like hes on auto pilot... kind of how everyone asks 'whats up?' in IMs. by hardly saying compliments it puts much more meaning on it when he does... and of course my body turns to mush and i feel like the wicked witch of the west melting away. lol
bebehaul24 bebehaul24 7 years
my finace compliments me fairly often. I feel like I compliment him all the time and he totally gobbles it up. If I tell him I like his shoes he'll say like 3 times after "so you like these shoes? do you think I made a good choice?" and it's really cute. I love it when he comments on something i'm wearing or just tells me I look pretty so the fact that it doesn't happen multiple times a day makes it feel more special when it does.
bebehaul24 bebehaul24 7 years
my finace compliments me fairly often. I feel like I compliment him all the time and he totally gobbles it up. If I tell him I like his shoes he'll say like 3 times after "so you like these shoes? do you think I made a good choice?" and it's really cute. I love it when he comments on something i'm wearing or just tells me I look pretty so the fact that it doesn't happen multiple times a day makes it feel more special when it does.
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