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Relationship Protocol: Touchy Subjects

As we make it through the personal successes, failures, and traumas of life, it’s inevitable that we pick up some sore spots along the way that when poked or nudged, can release a torrent of feelings. And just as we develop them on our own, it’s common for touchy subjects to arise as we encounter normal relationship issues. It could be something that consistently creates an argument or something that makes one person extremely uncomfortable, whatever it is, it always involves a lot of emotion. Do you and your significant other have any of these sensitive spots? Are there things you avoid talking about or have to tread lightly if you do?

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Karma87 Karma87 7 years
Oh YEAH, there is one subject soooo touchy that if I ask him this or that about it, he almost implodes...so annoying because I have questions and I want them answered, dammit! But, being the awesome wife I am, I've learned to leave it be. I don't want to, but I do. He's a good guy. That's his only fault.
lexichloe lexichloe 7 years
Yes, that he's a spoiled brat. But deep down I think he likes hearing it and talking about it.
oceanluv oceanluv 7 years
For us it's two things - One I went from being the single girl who was independent and didn't mind eating pb&j for a month so I could have that killer purse I wanted - and now I have to take into consideration our joint spending first and my wants second. Secondly there's the family issue - I come from an independent family that shares the big things but keeps the personal things personal until the need to know moment. My family also only talks maybe once a week at most. His family includes everyone in all aspects of life and talks daily - sometime more than once - so it's taken many talks before I learned to just deal - because he's worth it.
oceanluv oceanluv 7 years
For us it's two things - One I went from being the single girl who was independent and didn't mind eating pb&j for a month so I could have that killer purse I wanted - and now I have to take into consideration our joint spending first and my wants second. Secondly there's the family issue - I come from an independent family that shares the big things but keeps the personal things personal until the need to know moment. My family also only talks maybe once a week at most. His family includes everyone in all aspects of life and talks daily - sometime more than once - so it's taken many talks before I learned to just deal - because he's worth it.
lilCROAT03 lilCROAT03 7 years
past relationships. it's that sick- love thing where you're devastated that you've both ever held someone's hand before each other's.
sparklestar sparklestar 7 years
There are some things which I don't talk about on purpose like my childhood, any mental health problems etc. because I don't think he needs to know about them all at once. I don't imagine they would be a touchy subject but these are the topics I avoid.I'm very lucky though, he's been 100% supportive of me in everything.
sparklestar sparklestar 7 years
There are some things which I don't talk about on purpose like my childhood, any mental health problems etc. because I don't think he needs to know about them all at once. I don't imagine they would be a touchy subject but these are the topics I avoid. I'm very lucky though, he's been 100% supportive of me in everything.
lindserelli lindserelli 7 years
I've had a hard time getting close to his mother. We don't spend as much time with his family as we do with mine. Also, he can be jealous. I know when he asks things like, "who helped you carry that stuff to your car?" that he's getting paranoid about me cheating. Which, for the record, never have cheated or even came close.
honeysugar28 honeysugar28 7 years
Me too. My husband and I had a rocky start to our marriage. Its been 8 years since this happen but there are certain things we just can't bring up.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 7 years
Sure. In our case, it's my husband's family (my in-laws). I am very different from his family. We have different outlooks, values, codes of conduct, etc. His family has frustrated me on more than one occasion. :)
princess_eab princess_eab 7 years
Sex issues (why we weren't having it) and (frequently) when he was going to pay back the $100s he owed me. I'm pretty sure those two things were connected.
stumbler02 stumbler02 7 years
Past experiences with guys, especially one incident that was really traumatizing for me.
chicobo chicobo 7 years
His divorce and sometimes weight issues. Actually the latter has gotten way better; we've really discussed it and he's sooo supportive now. :)
g1amourpuss g1amourpuss 7 years
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marttina marttina 7 years
prior relationships. this issue still pops up on occasion.
g1amourpuss g1amourpuss 7 years
bchicgrl lol :) I want a new couch but I'm holding on until our old cats pass away and when my kid is older... so that cover caught my eye. =PDefinitely luv'n the windows, J!
g1amourpuss g1amourpuss 7 years
bchicgrl lol :) I want a new couch but I'm holding on until our old cats pass away and when my kid is older... so that cover caught my eye. =P Definitely luv'n the windows, J!
DCRoamer DCRoamer 7 years
Boy, do we ever. My bf has some complicated financial obligations regarding his family, and it has caused us so many arguments (because I would handle it more aggresively than he does). For the time being, I avoid the subject entirely. If we become engaged and start to merge finances, it will have to come up again, but for right now, ignorance is bliss.
bchicgrl bchicgrl 7 years
haha glamour that was my thought, I love that couch it looks sooo comfy. :)And no, my and my fiance put any issues we have out on the table to be talked about. I think that's the best way.
bchicgrl bchicgrl 7 years
haha glamour that was my thought, I love that couch it looks sooo comfy. :) And no, my and my fiance put any issues we have out on the table to be talked about. I think that's the best way.
lmors lmors 7 years
For me and my man, its his girl "friendships" from highschool that get to me.. Since we live in a college town we run into them all the time, most with past not so cool intentions with their friendship. Another would be a past eating disorder I had 5 years ago..
lmors lmors 7 years
For me and my man, its his girl "friendships" from highschool that get to me.. Since we live in a college town we run into them all the time, most with past not so cool intentions with their friendship. Another would be a past eating disorder I had 5 years ago..
Jude-C Jude-C 7 years
I like those windows!When we first started getting serious, fiance and I would get into it on a pretty regular basis about my past relationships (I'm a few years older than he is, and have correspondingly more past relationships). Those rough spots have long since been smoothed out, though, and I can't really think of any other sore spots that we have to be careful mentioning.
Jude-C Jude-C 7 years
I like those windows! When we first started getting serious, fiance and I would get into it on a pretty regular basis about my past relationships (I'm a few years older than he is, and have correspondingly more past relationships). Those rough spots have long since been smoothed out, though, and I can't really think of any other sore spots that we have to be careful mentioning.
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