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Group Therapy: On the Rebound Plus a Hot New Roommate . . . Bad Idea?

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I'd like to consider myself a smart woman who knows right from wrong, so I don't know if it's normal for myself to be worrying about this AS much as I am, or is it just my emotional state?

My boyfriend broke up with me a week ago. I was pretty sad about it and still am, but have been doing relatively well. I do feel a little "on the rebound" though. I haven't been searching for anyone yet because it's only been a week!! But I just feel it. I feel so hurt and confused by the break up that I think it would be nice just to have a guy distraction.

So here is the real issue. While my boyfriend and I were still together, I was in desperate need of a new roommate. I found this guy that was a perfect candidate! I don't know him but after chatting on Skype (for 2 hours), I realized how hot and cool he is. We have a lot in common and I think we could really be best friends. But all of my friends that have seen pictures of him are making remarks and jokes about how hot he is . . . how he and I are going to get drunk one night and hook up . . . fall in love . . . get jealous. Stuff like that. When I was still with my boyfriend I wasn't worried at all about the fact that he's extremely good looking because I knew that I loved my boyfriend and I would never do that to ANY boyfriend. I also felt more protected, like, the roommate would steer clear of me because I had a boyfriend. He is moving in in a week and I no longer have a boyfriend. He asked me about him the other day and I had to tell him about the breakup! Now I'm wondering if he has the same worries?

Am I over thinking this? Does anyone have any ideas on how this can be avoided?

Thanks!

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