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Dear Sugar
I have been trying to grow my hair long for six years. Aside from getting regular trims, it's never gotten any real styling because I've wanted to keep the length uniform. The most drastic things I ever done were to cut off the dead ends and put a few layers around my face; none of which have ever really done anything to improve my look.

It's time for a change, but I am petrified of salons. I get nervous before haircuts and have nightmares about getting some kind of whacked-out style that's impossible to maintain.

I know I should make a consultation with a stylist at a good place and invest into a great, low maintenance cut that shows off some of my personality, but I don't know where to begin.

What goes into a great haircut and how can I communicate to the stylist what I want if I lack any real idea of how it should look other than letting them know that I want to retain the length? Lost In My Long Locks

Dear Lost In My Long Locks
Hair stylists love direction. They need it, just like any other kind of artist. Trust me, they don't want to watch you sitting in your chair crying ugly after they've just spent the past two hours trying to make you look beautiful.

It's no wonder why you've had the same haircut for the past six years. You've scared every hairdresser into trying anything new and different on you. You are right, it's time for a change.

You need to face your haircut phobia head on. Have you always had trust issues? How about severe attachment issues in other areas of your life?

Maybe these two things will help you to relax a little bit. Remember that haircuts aren't permanent, your hair will always grow back. Also, your hairdresser isn't out to get you. They are in the service industry and they just want you to be happy so that you will return.

Here's what you need to do:

  • Research and cut out pictures of girls with medium to long haircuts that you love. Bring in as many pictures as you can find from different angles. Try looking at celebrity hair galleries for ideas.
  • Notice face shapes and try to find something that you think would be flattering on you as well.
  • Be realistic when looking at models and celebs. No stylist is going to be able to live up to your expectations if you expect to be transformed in their chair into Angelina, Jessica or Beyonce.

(Think there's a hair trend going on right now?!!)
Take a deep breath and relax, let yourself get pampered! Good luck.

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