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Sasha Grey Says Porn Sex Can Be Romantic

What Is Romance to You?

Sasha Grey, the porn-star-as-performance-art actress, isn't the first person you'd ask about romance. But while publicizing her book Neü Sex, she told the Daily Beast that the male-dominant sex so popular in porn can not only be romantic, it can also be empowering, at least to her. So I couldn't help but ask: What is romance to you, Sasha Grey?

"Not chocolate and roses and a candlelit dinner. I want a sloppy, handwritten letter on newspaper where you white-out the newspaper . . . Something with thought to it. A shiny ring isn’t romantic to me. I think thought and love into what you do for the person you're in love with — that's romance."

I'm partial to finding romance in the last place you'd look, so I'd say her answer is spot-on, for me anyway. But what is romance to you?

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Pistil Pistil 5 years
A pistil is a part of a plant's anatomy. I'm sorry I come across so dim-witted... wait... let me spell check this...
Pistil Pistil 5 years
A pistil is a part of a plant's anatomy. I'm sorry I come across so dim-witted... wait... let me spell check this...
Burkina Burkina 5 years
Now that you mentioned it starbucks, I'd love to hear the President's thoughts on romance.
Pistil Pistil 5 years
Ha, Anonymous. Please feel free to point out any other spelling mistakes. How else will I learn?
starbucks2 starbucks2 5 years
Why wouldn't you ask a porn star about romance? Just because she has sex for a living she can't have romance in her life? I bet even the president knows something about romance, and his job isn't really romantic either..And I do agree with her, little love notes hidden in my purse. That's the good stuff!
starbucks2 starbucks2 5 years
Why wouldn't you ask a porn star about romance? Just because she has sex for a living she can't have romance in her life? I bet even the president knows something about romance, and his job isn't really romantic either.. And I do agree with her, little love notes hidden in my purse. That's the good stuff!
bryseana bryseana 5 years
I completely agree with her. It's more romantic when your significant other gives you something personal like a hand written letter or something they make themselves.
Natalie-Love Natalie-Love 5 years
I find it really romantic when my boyfriend cooks for me (which he does pretty often; he's an engineer, but he always says that being a chef would have been his option B). He loves cooking, and is really good at it! When I come over and he's prepared a fancy dinner it always makes me feel so loved, because not only is the food amazing, I'm so flattered that he took the time and effort to do something like that for me. I think for me romance is really about the person knowing you and doing something special. As silly as it sounds, he knows that in my Russian family, I would always get caviar as a part of my birthday dinner, and when my parents moved far away and I couldn't have a traditional Russian celebration with me on my 18th birthday, he found me some and surprised me with it. It wasn't about the food being expensive that made it so romantic.. It really is the fact he cared enough to listen and know me so well, if that makes any sense.
lilkimbo lilkimbo 5 years
Ugh! I typed up a (somewhat) lengthy comment and it appears to not have posted correctly.Anyway, yeah, both spellings of jewelry/jewelery are considered correct.And, on to the bigger point, you can get what seems like a generic gift and actually have it be personal. For example, I don't really like roses, but I would love a gift of peonies or hydrangeas. And I probably wouldn't eat most of what's in a Whitman's sampler, but I would love to received chocolate-covered potato chips or chocolate-covered grapes. (A guy I dated a while back stopped at my favorite chocolate store in my hometown on his way back from a road trip with friends and loaded up a small cooler of my favorites. His friends teased him about it, but he knew I'd been missing home and I thought it was a really sweet gift.) Flowers and candy doesn't have to mean roses bought at a grocery store and a mass-produced box of waxy chocolates. I guess my ultimate point is that of course everyone likes more personal gifts and traditions, but it is possible to give personalized gifts without eschewing the traditional.
lilkimbo lilkimbo 5 years
Ugh! I typed up a (somewhat) lengthy comment and it appears to not have posted correctly. Anyway, yeah, both spellings of jewelry/jewelery are considered correct. And, on to the bigger point, you can get what seems like a generic gift and actually have it be personal. For example, I don't really like roses, but I would love a gift of peonies or hydrangeas. And I probably wouldn't eat most of what's in a Whitman's sampler, but I would love to received chocolate-covered potato chips or chocolate-covered grapes. (A guy I dated a while back stopped at my favorite chocolate store in my hometown on his way back from a road trip with friends and loaded up a small cooler of my favorites. His friends teased him about it, but he knew I'd been missing home and I thought it was a really sweet gift.) Flowers and candy doesn't have to mean roses bought at a grocery store and a mass-produced box of waxy chocolates. I guess my ultimate point is that of course everyone likes more personal gifts and traditions, but it is possible to give personalized gifts without eschewing the traditional.
colouryourself colouryourself 5 years
Jewelry or Jewellery (the english way of spelling it) or Jewelry (the American way of spelling it). The Oxford English Dictionary also says that a correct spelling is Jewelery (with one 'l')Words can be spelt many different ways around the world. I'm from Canada and go to both Canadian and American Universities and many words are spelt differently. Examples:grey vs. grayneighbor vs. neighbourdefence vs. defense and the list goes on...
colouryourself colouryourself 5 years
Jewelry or Jewellery (the english way of spelling it) or Jewelry (the American way of spelling it). The Oxford English Dictionary also says that a correct spelling is Jewelery (with one 'l') Words can be spelt many different ways around the world. I'm from Canada and go to both Canadian and American Universities and many words are spelt differently. Examples: grey vs. gray neighbor vs. neighbour defence vs. defense and the list goes on...
testadura67 testadura67 5 years
Well, I don't wear jewelery, and chocolate is cool and all, but it's so cliche. It takes no thought. I think the most romantic thing ever done for me was my bf getting me my own motorcycle gear in Carolina blue (I'm a tar heel born and bred), and waited to surprise me with it until my doctor had released me from physical therapy after reconstructive surgery on my wrist. I'd never been able to hold on before. It was thoughtful, sweet, and showed me he wanted to share his interests with me. THAT's romance. Not roses bought at Harris Teeter and Whitman's chocolates in a heart shaped box.
Pistil Pistil 5 years
Unbelievable! I bet it's rare that you'd find a woman who isn't satisfied with just chocolate and jewelery.
GTCB GTCB 5 years
I'm personally surprised when any "celebrity" is capable of stringing together a series of coherent words that form a rational sentence (I'm looking at you Rihanna). But it's especially hard to take such a person seriously when part of their job is having men ejaculate all over their face for the camera.
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