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Sex by Surprise

What Is "Sex by Surprise"?

Believe it or not, sex by surprise is actually not an euphemism for rape. It is sex without a condom after a woman requests it — even if the sex is consensual — and it's fine-able in Sweden by 5,000 kronor (about $715).

This is what WikiLeaks founder, Julian Assange, is actually accused of, and not rape. Though the rape charges were dropped in August, accusations of rape have been popping up since he became America's most wanted tattletale last week for releasing classified State Department documents.

That drama aside, I am intrigued by sex by surprise. Guys go back on condom promises all the time; if he isn't forcing himself on a woman, isn't she equally at fault?

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Jessiebanana Jessiebanana 5 years
I agree about the broken condom bit, but if I do think if two people agree to using a condom and say you're doing it doggy style and the man ignores that and plows on without it should be fine-able. Unprotected sex is dangerous and it's not okay to simply ignore that, so if there was a way to deter that behavior I'm all for it. It's not placing the responsibility on the man the way I think about it. I still think both people are responsible for making sure a condom is present and the agreement is made. It's the man or woman taking it into their own hands to do whatever they want to someone else. Now how one would prosecute something like that is the biggest issue.
GTCB GTCB 5 years
My first thought was that he went for the back door instead of the front?
MSucre MSucre 5 years
Why doesn't he just pay the $715 and just move on with his life?
Bettye-Wayne Bettye-Wayne 6 years
I was in a similar situation quite recently. He took the condom halfway through and I didn't realize it. I didn't think to 'check,' I was too caught up in how good it felt (hate me for saying it, sex is a million times better without a condom). Nothing to do in that situation but get a morning after pill and an STD test... I would never take a man to court over something like that, though I was pretty salty.
totygoliguez totygoliguez 6 years
I agree with Dimond. Having protection is the responsibility of both parties. It is not difficult to check for a condom.
stephley stephley 6 years
"According to a police report obtained by the Daily Mail in August, she and Assange had sex, and at some point the condom broke." I can't imagine how you'd prosecute this - even if they had the condom, how would they establish when it broke and who said what when it happened? And yeah, unless the man uses force, why would the condom issue be solely his fault?
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