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So I'm a college girl living a college lifestyle. Before graduating from high school, I only had sex with one person. I dated him for a year, only breaking up after my freshman year of college started. Almost immediately after our breakup, I went wild. I don't know what happened really. I slept around, started drinking regularly, and stopped caring about school stuff.
I actively sought out sex wherever I could get it. I'm not sure why, because I've never orgasmed during sex, and I don't enjoy it all that much overall. By this point, I have slept with 13, yes 13, guys.
A little more than a week ago, I started dating this really great guy. He seems almost perfect for me. The only problem? He's a virgin. I don't really have an issue with this, outside of the fact that I am terrified! His virginity has me ridiculously intimidated. I'm his first real girlfriend, and we have only ever made out. He's stayed the night in my room, but nothing more than some cuddling and sleeping happened. He refuses to have his hands anywhere near my boobs.
I look at him as a way to get back to the me I used to be before college, but at the same time I am so scared. I don't know what to do, how to make him comfortable, how to "teach" him once we do start moving ahead, or how to talk to him about my past and his virginity.
Please, any advice would be so much appreciated. I've never been with a virgin before.