I've been married for 5 years. I know my husband's "line of work" isn't entirely just, but I never thought that he would lie to me. We have a child together, a beautiful house and close knit circle of friends.
I recently found out that he has opened a P.O. Box, has leased another car and is looking at apartments in another city. He hasn't told me about any of these things. Is he setting himself up to leave me? If I confront him, I know I need to be prepared for this. Since I have no where to go if we split up, I've chosen to ignore the signs.
Is that foolish? What should I do? Foolish Frannie
Dear Foolish Frannie
These are some heavy duty lies/cover ups. If you know your husband is up to no good, you better start asking him about what's going on. You might seem like a snoop to him, but from an outside perspective it looks like he's either got another girl in the picture, or he's planning on taking off.
You'll never know until you talk to him. Also, it may not be a bad idea to get all of your ducks in order (finances, housing, child care, etc. . .) in case he ever gets into trouble and you are left alone. I am sorry to have to say it, but you can never be too careful.