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Sharing Passwords in Relationships

When Do You Let Your Significant Other Into Your Online Life?

A New York Times article says sharing passwords to email, photo sites, and bank accounts (!) has become the new currency of intimacy. To give a password is to show trust, but not all passwords are the same. I'd share my Netflix password after three dates, but I wouldn't share my email password after three years (maybe 30?). As for a bank account? Only if it was joint.

What online domains have you let a significant other enter? And at what point?


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CiaoBella01 CiaoBella01 6 years
sharongilo, i STRONGLY disagree with your point. of course there are many things that need to be shared, but everything is a little excessive. i fully believe that you cannot trust someone who has no secrets. now, for passwords. pointless things like facebook, i don't care telling my boyfriend if the question came up. but things like e-mails or bank accounts, i would be a little hesitant. it's not because i have anythign to hide, but there are things that i don't like him poking his nose around. if there's something that needs to be said, i will tell him, no doubt. i like to have a bit of my own life! i wouldn't want to know every single little thing about his life either ;P
CiaoBella01 CiaoBella01 6 years
sharongilo, i STRONGLY disagree with your point. of course there are many things that need to be shared, but everything is a little excessive. i fully believe that you cannot trust someone who has no secrets. now, for passwords. pointless things like facebook, i don't care telling my boyfriend if the question came up. but things like e-mails or bank accounts, i would be a little hesitant. it's not because i have anythign to hide, but there are things that i don't like him poking his nose around. if there's something that needs to be said, i will tell him, no doubt. i like to have a bit of my own life! i wouldn't want to know every single little thing about his life either ;P
skigurl skigurl 6 years
i have his password (its basically the same for everything) but he doesn't have mine, not because i don't trust him, more just because it's never come up and i can't imagine he would really care all that much...if he asked or needed it (it being my emails, my bank, my facebook, whatever) i'd give it to him but i don't see it as being something that needs to be a giant announcement or step in the relationship
Veka Veka 6 years
He knows my alarm code to my house and I know the pin on his debit card, and that's about it. Emails and all that other stuff aren't necessarily "private" but I see no need for either of us to go snooping around. If he demanded to login to my email or facebook, I would do it since I have nothing to hide, but he would never demand that because it's silly. As long as there is trust in the relationship, none of that other stuff even matters.
Yogaforlife Yogaforlife 6 years
My hubby and I have shared all our passwords, pins. We just trust each other at this point and there's nothing either one of us would need to hide from the other (except surprise gifts - which we warn each other not to check a receipt or something). We rarely use each other's accounts though, unless one is somewhere where they don't have access but needs the other to look something up.
Autumns_Elegy Autumns_Elegy 6 years
I've never shard passwords. Not even the PIN to my phone. it's not necessary.
kurniakasih kurniakasih 6 years
My hub and I share passwords and e-mail accounts. He's rarely gone online (he's not keen on that at all) so usually I get to take care of stuffs online for both of us.I joined fb (finally) not too long ago, and usually left it logged on. I don't have anything to hide from him. If he felt the need to 'look' or 'read' the stuffs I wrote online, be my guest.
kurniakasih kurniakasih 6 years
My hub and I share passwords and e-mail accounts. He's rarely gone online (he's not keen on that at all) so usually I get to take care of stuffs online for both of us. I joined fb (finally) not too long ago, and usually left it logged on. I don't have anything to hide from him. If he felt the need to 'look' or 'read' the stuffs I wrote online, be my guest.
duckiesandie duckiesandie 6 years
My boyfriend and I have been together for a year now - we know each other's FB and email passwords. I think the subject came about very randomly - I've asked him (don't laugh! :-D) to check on my Farmville crops from time to time when I'm away, and him to me, so we exchanged that way. We're not snoopers and have nothing to hide from each other, so it's not really a big deal to us. I don't feel like giving away my social networking password is a particular hindrance to my individuality really... it's just a bunch of emails. It's one thing to RUN a his and her page together, but another to just know the passwords. Even knowing each others logins, we still (and will continue to) separately maintain our own spaces/profiles/accounts online.
duckiesandie duckiesandie 6 years
My boyfriend and I have been together for a year now - we know each other's FB and email passwords. I think the subject came about very randomly - I've asked him (don't laugh! :-D) to check on my Farmville crops from time to time when I'm away, and him to me, so we exchanged that way. We're not snoopers and have nothing to hide from each other, so it's not really a big deal to us. I don't feel like giving away my social networking password is a particular hindrance to my individuality really... it's just a bunch of emails. It's one thing to RUN a his and her page together, but another to just know the passwords. Even knowing each others logins, we still (and will continue to) separately maintain our own spaces/profiles/accounts online.
totygoliguez totygoliguez 6 years
I will never give my password to a boyfriend. Just because I'm in a relationship doesn't mean that I have to share every aspect of my life. My e-mail, bank accounts, etc are privet. It is not a matter of trust; is a matter of maintaining my privacy and my individuality.
juicebox07 juicebox07 6 years
I never give out my passwords.
medenginer medenginer 6 years
I don't mind him accessing something trivial but anything major no.
medenginer medenginer 6 years
He has my email and face book passwords. If I need his help accessing something on the computer I'll give my password if I'm not able to do it. Sometimes he'll create a new account and password for me. As far as bank, insurance, or any other account passwords I don't give access to since we don't have a shared account.
tarabara1229 tarabara1229 6 years
I know a few of his and he knows a few of mine. Definitely not to our bank accounts, but to email, Netflix, and fb. Actually, he doesn't even have fb, but he goes on mine sometimes just to see what our mutual friends are up to. We probably shared our passwords maybe 4 years into our relationship, right when we moved in together.
mix-tape mix-tape 6 years
I knew some of my exes passwords and he knew some of mine. It just kinda happens in some circumstances where you need that person to access the account for whatever reason. He knew my atm pin so he could go get groceries for me and stuff. It wasn't a serious conversation of trust that led to that happening. I would NEVER share a bank account with someone unless we were married.
filmgirl81 filmgirl81 6 years
Yeah, I don't think it's necessary. He has my alarm code, but that's it. He doesn't need or want to have the password to anything else, and I certainly don't want to check his email
Bailey-Bloom Bailey-Bloom 6 years
I just don't know why they would need to read my email! It's not like it's a shared account! Sorry, I just don't get it. Someone really needs to shed light on this topic for me lol
Bailey-Bloom Bailey-Bloom 6 years
I never understood this concept. Why would you share passwords for things such as email or facebook? I understand netflix just in case the s.o. wants to get movies but what about the other stuff? I have given my exes my passwords before for some things, but it was because I wasn't by a computer and I needed them look at my email or whatever. But that was it. I guess that doesn't sound like sharing. But can someone explain?
Pistil Pistil 6 years
After three years we haven't shared any passwords, not because we don't trust each other. I just don't see the necessity of it.
oohsexypenguin oohsexypenguin 6 years
My husband and I have shared passwords since the beginning of our relationship (except for bank account passwords, which we then shared after we opened a joint account). We've just always trusted each other, and honestly thought nothing of it. It's never been a problem.
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