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Shocking News: Juries Don't Believe Date Rape Exists

Shocking News: Juries Don't Believe Date Rape Exists

Date rape is more common than you might think, and statistics show that one in six women will be sexually assaulted in a lifetime. Of those assaults, only 19 percent are reported to the police, which is why recent news shows that it's tough to prosecute sexual predators.

Of all the stranger-rape cases that do make it to court, 68 percent end with a conviction. For acquaintance-rape cases, that number is much lower — only 35 percent. Part of the reason is that juries don't think the notion of date rape exists. In the 70s, most reported rape cases were committed by strangers, so jurors and judges have an image in their mind that a rapist is some crazy lunatic who hides in the bushes and prances on unsuspecting victims. They assume the victim will have bruises and broken bones, and she'll notify the police right away, but as we all know, that's not always the case. Rape situations are much different now. Many victims know their attacker and often times, they are given date-rape drugs so they'll be unable to fight back or say no. These drugs can make details foggy for the victim, so she may not go to the police (right away or at all) because she's unsure of what happened.

I know this is frighting news, but there's still something you can do. To find out what it is

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If you suspect you were a victim of date rape, go to a hospital immediately. Do not shower; you don't want to wash away any evidence. The doctor or nurse will administer a rape kit to collect semen, saliva, clothing fibers, strands of hair, and other evidence, and will make a report of your story. This is your best weapon at proving the rape happened so the police or court system can convict your attacker, which will keep you and other women safe.

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thelorax thelorax 7 years
I thought the statistic was higher than 1 in 6 -- I've heard 1 in 3...and I certainly know more than a few women who have been sexually assaulted in some way, myself included. Date rape is hard to prove, but it's no less traumatizing for the victims, and it should not be dismissed.
hottpink hottpink 7 years
I was date raped by 2 acquaintances I had met only once when I was 17. Unfortunately, I didn’t report it to the police. This type of thing really upsets me...it just makes it harder for women to come out and let people know what happened to them. Dear- Do you know of any website or groups that take action???
hottpink hottpink 7 years
I was date raped by 2 acquaintances I had met only once when I was 17. Unfortunately, I didn’t report it to the police. This type of thing really upsets me...it just makes it harder for women to come out and let people know what happened to them. Dear- Do you know of any website or groups that take action???
ghostgrrl ghostgrrl 7 years
This statistic might be misleading. To really get an idea about date-rape prosecutions you would also need to know about cases that settled with plea bargains. Cases that go to trial are generally the ones with the weakest evidence, where the defense thinks they have the best chance of an aquittal. Cases with stronger evidence usually get pled out and never go to trial.
356UIK 356UIK 7 years
Doesnt surprise me.
356UIK 356UIK 7 years
Doesnt surprise me.
Frank-y-Ava Frank-y-Ava 7 years
fleurfairy that innocent until proven guilty has gone even a step further some judges have outlawed the word rape in a trial. They say it makes the jurors automatically think the defendant is guilty (which is true but damn!).
Frank-y-Ava Frank-y-Ava 7 years
GScott of course men can be raped by women. Older women might take advantage of younger men or boys or even a group of women can gang rape a man. It happens but they hardly report because they find it extremely embarrassing. Rapes should always be reported regardless of gender, history, etc. etc.
PeachyKeen19 PeachyKeen19 7 years
I think the fact that it's called "Date" rape is a problem and doesn't help the matter at all. I can't remember where, if it was in health class or a speaker, but we learned that rape is rape. As it has been stated it's not always about a "stranger" and many rapes are perpetrated by people the victim knows.
GScott86 GScott86 7 years
Rape's always going to be touchy, since it's not as straightforward as murder or theft. Unfortunately, it's so true that the victim is blamed in some of these cases (in addition to fleurfair being right, some women do tell tales, maybe a small percentage). Rape is so much harder to prove unless there are actual witnesses, and since there's usually only 2 people (regardless of DNA evidence), you have to prove that he or she did not want to have to have the sexual act, and it was forced on him or her (yes me are raped too). I remember a brief discussion on this in class where women do know their attackers and the history creates a bit of doubt in jurors minds. It's easier to think a random stranger could actually commit this crime than an acquaintance (apparently some think when they know their attacker that it must have been consensual in some way, or the woman wanted it). I would like to know also, do any of you think it's practical for men to be raped (not only gay rape here, I'm also talking about women raping men).
fleurfairy fleurfairy 7 years
Date rape is harder to prove, if it can be proved at all. And in this country we have a law that states the defendant is innocent until PROVEN guilty. I also think that many women falsley accuse men of raping them for various reasons and unfortunately these situations are becoming more prevelant, hence juries' reluctance to convict.
lawchick lawchick 7 years
I used to do criminal law and this doesn't surprise me AT ALL. there are many people who think of date rape as less serious than stranger rape, and there seems to be a greater tendency to blame the victim for provoking it.
psterling psterling 7 years
I read the same article as Dear and it says that woman who are raped by an acquaintance are often confused, hurt and have a ton of mixed emotions and don't act like the public expects a rape woman to act. For example, one woman actually continued to see her rapist socially after the crime because she was in shock and disbelief. I think educating the public its the best way to make sure that these crimes are properly punished.
psterling psterling 7 years
I read the same article as Dear and it says that woman who are raped by an acquaintance are often confused, hurt and have a ton of mixed emotions and don't act like the public expects a rape woman to act. For example, one woman actually continued to see her rapist socially after the crime because she was in shock and disbelief. I think educating the public its the best way to make sure that these crimes are properly punished.
Frank-y-Ava Frank-y-Ava 7 years
Date rapes are harder to prosecute but people have to know they exist. But there are dumb ass people who think boyfriends or husbands can't rape their girlfriends/wives. I started watching SVU in the 9th grade and I learned A LOT of information that I would not have learned from my parents and teachers.
Frank-y-Ava Frank-y-Ava 7 years
Date rapes are harder to prosecute but people have to know they exist. But there are dumb ass people who think boyfriends or husbands can't rape their girlfriends/wives. I started watching SVU in the 9th grade and I learned A LOT of information that I would not have learned from my parents and teachers.
momma-tikita momma-tikita 7 years
huh?
momma-tikita momma-tikita 7 years
huh?
GScott86 GScott86 7 years
I don't totally buy that Juries don't believe in rape, that's a bit of a hasty statement. I wouldn't go as far as saying they don't believe date rape exists, it's mostly the lack of evidence. Trials (and hopefully jury deliberation) is based on factual evidence and rather than factual truth. Rape kits and DNA evidence won't necessarily post a conviction, it rests a lot on witnesses as well as the victim (in which case, the defense usually try to discredit the victim and post blame on them). The 1970s hysteria of the stranger in the bushes still exists but somewhat is beginning to diminish, but the fear of danger is still there. With family members and acquaintances, there's always that fear of retribution if you tell, or who's really going to believe me. Awareness is being realized slowly that it's not going to be so much the guy in the bushes, but we shouldn't fool ourselves into thinking it will never be. Frankly no matter how much shifting of "it's someone you know" verses the stranger, that fear of walking down an alley at night and thinking someone might pounce on your or those guys at the corner staring at you wants to do something will always be there. The best thing to do is take proper precautions and protect yourself. I'm slightly fearful that my gf might end up being a victim of sexual assault in college and I pray to God that never happens. All I can ask her is to be careful, (she takes it as me being too much of a worry wart, and as much as she thinks she can trust whatever guys she knows for 2 or 3 months, I don't trust them and really, even family you've known for 20 years even can't always be trusted). I agree with dearsugar's research as you should NEVER take a shower or clean up after you've been a victim or suspect being a victim of rape. Go to the hospital right away AND allow the police to do their job, give a clear testimony, tell nothing but the truth, and give them whatever necessary information, as if this is taken to trial, be sure there isn't anything hazy in your past that could be used against you. Be straight forward with the prosecutor* and the police. And I pray to God no one here will ever be a victim of rape or sexual assult. I absolutely detest rapist and murderers.
GScott86 GScott86 7 years
I don't totally buy that Juries don't believe in rape, that's a bit of a hasty statement. I wouldn't go as far as saying they don't believe date rape exists, it's mostly the lack of evidence. Trials (and hopefully jury deliberation) is based on factual evidence and rather than factual truth. Rape kits and DNA evidence won't necessarily post a conviction, it rests a lot on witnesses as well as the victim (in which case, the defense usually try to discredit the victim and post blame on them).The 1970s hysteria of the stranger in the bushes still exists but somewhat is beginning to diminish, but the fear of danger is still there. With family members and acquaintances, there's always that fear of retribution if you tell, or who's really going to believe me. Awareness is being realized slowly that it's not going to be so much the guy in the bushes, but we shouldn't fool ourselves into thinking it will never be. Frankly no matter how much shifting of "it's someone you know" verses the stranger, that fear of walking down an alley at night and thinking someone might pounce on your or those guys at the corner staring at you wants to do something will always be there. The best thing to do is take proper precautions and protect yourself. I'm slightly fearful that my gf might end up being a victim of sexual assault in college and I pray to God that never happens. All I can ask her is to be careful, (she takes it as me being too much of a worry wart, and as much as she thinks she can trust whatever guys she knows for 2 or 3 months, I don't trust them and really, even family you've known for 20 years even can't always be trusted). I agree with dearsugar's research as you should NEVER take a shower or clean up after you've been a victim or suspect being a victim of rape. Go to the hospital right away AND allow the police to do their job, give a clear testimony, tell nothing but the truth, and give them whatever necessary information, as if this is taken to trial, be sure there isn't anything hazy in your past that could be used against you. Be straight forward with the prosecutor* and the police. And I pray to God no one here will ever be a victim of rape or sexual assult. I absolutely detest rapist and murderers.
CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 7 years
Do jurors ACTUALLY THIN date rape doesnt exist, or is there just not enough evidence in certain cases so they have doubt. thats the way our courts work unfortunatly.
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