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Should I Admit I Smoke?

"Should I Tell Him I Smoke?"

This question is from a Group Therapy post in our TrèsSugar Community. Add your advice in the comments!

I haven't intentionally kept this information hidden — it's just never come up. My boyfriend and I have been together for eight months, and during that time, he's never seen me smoke and I've never mentioned it. When we were at the mall, we walked by a smoker and he said that he thinks smoking in public should be illegal. I should have said something then, but he surprised me and I was a little upset. I'm not a heavy smoker — more of a social smoker, maybe a couple cigarettes a month. Should I tell him?

I understand that I'm lying by omission about something he clearly has a problem with, but we're not planning on moving in together, so my habit won't affect him. I never smoke in my car or my apartment, so he really has no idea. I don't think the relationship is built on lies or anything, but there's an aspect of my life he doesn't know about, and he's bound to find out sometime; I guess it'd be better if he heard it from me. Do you think there are certain things that are okay to keep from your partner, or should a relationship be 100% transparent?

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