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Should I Call It Quits?

"Should I Call It Quits?"

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I have been dating my boyfriend for a year and seven months (today is actually our one-year-and-seven-month anniversary). I have had lots of ups and downs with the relationship. I feel he's the only one who really knows me, more than my mom or other relatives do. I've been thinking that maybe he isn't the right guy for me because of the fact that we argue over the smallest things a lot and I feel like he triggers the argument to be what it turns out to be. I've admitted my wrongdoings to him and have apologized to him, yet I don't see him apologizing as much as I do. Many times, I apologize just to get him to see that it's not a game about who's right or wrong. It's just about both of us working together to make this relationship better. I don't think he gets it.

Yesterday while at work, he called, and we talked about the plans we had after he got out of work. We agreed to rent a movie and order Chinese. He wanted me to drive because of the fact that I need more experience behind the wheel, which I agree to. Well, when we got into the car and I backed out off the parking spot, I found myself stuck between a car and a wall. I gave him a look, basically asking if what I was doing was correct, and he told me that I should move forward more. I looked at what was in front of me (a parked car) and felt that if I inched forward more, I could have accidentally hit the car. He told me to trust him, and when he realized that I wasn't listening to his direction, he immediately saw that I didn't trust him. I explained that I did trust him, but at a time like this, I had to go with my instincts because of how much worse the situation could have been. He didn't bother to take that into consideration and immediately was cold toward me. I knew this because, some moments later, the car was acting weird as I was driving it, and when I turned to him for questions, he said that, since I knew what I was doing, I should just drive. The tone just said it all. It wasn't with the best intention. It was anger, just making me feel bad. I don't believe I deserved that kind of treatment. It became an argument, and since I almost ran a red light, he directed me to stop the car or, if I didn't, he was going to exit the car at the next stop. Again, he was just so cold, and I realized and felt that he didn't love me.

For him to get me this upset or to even try to hurt me because of the fact that I didn't listen to a driving direction seemed so ridiculous. I don't know what to do. This is just an example of what I go through a lot with him (arguing for stupid reasons, that is). I really hope I get the advice I'm seeking. Should I call it quits? I don't feel happy with him, but I love him. It's such a weird feeling, but it's the best I can describe it. 

Oh and another thing . . . just to make a long story short, he dumped me because I had asked him about the status of our relationship and it was annoying to him. I know for a fact he was saying it out of anger, but even so, I don't think something like that should be said. Another note on why I feel I shouldn't continue this relationship. Advice please!

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