I am 28-year-old single woman with a great job, great condo and lots of good friends in a city I've been living in for about four years; I would consider myself very independent and self-sufficient. Four years ago I broke up with my college boyfriend — of four years — because he moved five hours away. The pressure I was getting from him caused me to fall out of love and I started becoming interested in other men, which is when I knew I had to break it off. The breakup was very difficult on him and we didn't speak for three years.
Just this past December we went to dinner and I realized that he had changed; he was confident, well-spoken and apologized for blaming me for "ruining his life." He told me then that he was finally over me.
Over the past six months we have been talking a lot, seen each other twice, and slept together. When we were together it was great and stress free, which it hadn't been before. Since he lives far away, I've been wanting to spend longer periods of time with him so I invited him to my parents' house at the beach. I am very excited, but also very nervous.
I'm afraid and in the back of my head a voice is telling me that if it didn't work the first time, why would it this time? Also, I still harbor guilt over the first break up, so I'm nervous to let myself go and just roll with it. I'm wondering if there is anyone who has been in a similar situation and knows how to tell the little voices in your head to stop and just have fun. Do you have any advice?