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Should I Make a Sex Tape?

Group Therapy: Should I Make a Sex Tape?

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My boyfriend and I are pretty serious, and I want to spice up our sexual life. He's a really trustworthy guy and he'd never try to do anything to harm me. This was my whole idea though. I want to make a sex tape to watch in his absence because I don't watch porn and we have a long-distance relationship. I think it'd be hot and sexy. I'd obviously keep it, he would not. I'd make sure it wouldn't leak or get out. Is this a bad idea?

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boredgourdless boredgourdless 4 years
My God, how obvious is it that the stock photo is rigged in such a way that the computer screen is showing a separate picture than what the camera is supposedly capturing? Sorry, what was the question again?
boredgourdless boredgourdless 4 years
My God, how obvious is it that the stock photo is rigged in such a way that the computer screen is showing a separate picture than what the camera is supposedly capturing? Sorry, what was the question again?
ojoba ojoba 4 years
Yup, go for it,and totally agree w/Venus.But its your judgment call.
Venus1 Venus1 4 years
It's fun. Go for it and enjoy! But make sure that you remain the sole custodian of it!
Cris1192 Cris1192 4 years
Don't.Just don't. And if you do, follow Reese Witherspoon's advice and cover your face
Not-Princess22 Not-Princess22 4 years
DONT DO IT!! My bf and I made one (we've been together for 6 years, living together for 3, so our relationship is really serious) and an acquaintance of him stole it and uploaded it to several adult websites. This really affected us, I had to get professional help bc I developed PTSD symptoms and was triggered anytime a friend or someone who knows me told me that they saw it. Worst thing ever happened to me, changed my life completely
Not-Princess22 Not-Princess22 4 years
DONT DO IT!! My bf and I made one (we've been together for 6 years, living together for 3, so our relationship is really serious) and an acquaintance of him stole it and uploaded it to several adult websites. This really affected us, I had to get professional help bc I developed PTSD symptoms and was triggered anytime a friend or someone who knows me told me that they saw it. Worst thing ever happened to me, changed my life completely
sagagirl sagagirl 4 years
Unless your name is Kim Kardashian, don't do it. I think making a sex video and then saving it should only be done if you do not mind the whole world seeing it. Even if you trust a man, you still can't trust him that much. I know of someone who saved an erotic video of himself and his girlfriend on his laptop. He took the laptop for repairs and the video ended up on the internet. He wasn't being malicious but his ignorance embarrassed her. The most you should send your boyfriend is a sexy photo (privates and boobs covered) of yourself. i
juicebox07 juicebox07 4 years
My boyfriend and I made a sex tape a couple years ago, but I deleted it after we watched it. You can never be too careful.
dvdsky81 dvdsky81 4 years
As long as you know it'll be "safe" and in good hands, the only question for me is will your BF consent to it? As long as you have his consent-what the hell? Go for it. It seems you've thought this through, including risks, etc. and have a plan. Be responsible. Get his consent. Have at it.
BiWife BiWife 4 years
sex tapes are awesome as long as they are stored properly and not in a shared folder or otherwise unprotected place. Honestly, I've never lost or had a laptop stolen, and i've only ever had one cell phone lost/stolen in a decade, so as long as it's not somewhere that your boss is going to find it, then you're golden.have fun, don't try to be a porn star, just enjoy yourself, it looks a lot sexier later if you're in the moment rather than trying to look/sound like a porn star.
BiWife BiWife 4 years
sex tapes are awesome as long as they are stored properly and not in a shared folder or otherwise unprotected place. Honestly, I've never lost or had a laptop stolen, and i've only ever had one cell phone lost/stolen in a decade, so as long as it's not somewhere that your boss is going to find it, then you're golden. have fun, don't try to be a porn star, just enjoy yourself, it looks a lot sexier later if you're in the moment rather than trying to look/sound like a porn star.
Bettye-Wayne Bettye-Wayne 4 years
I think it's a wonderful idea. I've never been able to talk a guy into making one with me... so if you can talk your guy into it... I will be jealous of you.
bexpeep bexpeep 4 years
how long have you been going out?
missmaryb missmaryb 4 years
That's a tough one. If you are comfortable with the risks and trust him 110%, then go for it.
pax4pax pax4pax 4 years
Once something is saved electronically, there is always a danger of someone whom you didn't intend to get it.Lost or stolen laptop or disc? It's common.
pax4pax pax4pax 4 years
Once something is saved electronically, there is always a danger of someone whom you didn't intend to get it. Lost or stolen laptop or disc? It's common.
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