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Should I Move For School and Boyfriend?

"Should I Move Across the World For School and My Boyfriend?"

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I've come to a fork in the road in my life; I have the opportunity to start studying halfway across the world or stay at the small university I'm currently at and I need to decide soon. I've been thinking about this for a couple months, but I still haven't been able to make up my mind. I'm drawn to the city by three main things:

  1. The city itself-I've only been there for a weekend, but it was one of the happiest weekends of my life... something just really clicks.
  2. My long-term boyfriend who will be living there.
  3. Personal growth, independence and a respectable university education.

My boyfriend of two and a half years grew up in a foreign country. He recently got an offer to work at Google in the same country, and he will be moving back there in the next few months. He is the sweetest, most wonderful companion I have ever had. I'm not exaggerating at all-he has an incredibly gentle heart, we have logical discussions instead of angry arguments, and we work together to support each other and grow in so many ways.

At home I have a very big family that is constantly expanding, and I love them all very much! However, some of my siblings seem to have something against my boyfriend. Whenever I ask them if something's wrong, I never seem to get a straight answer. Could it be that they are mad about him possibly taking me far away? I at least know that my dad trusts and respects him.

So, herein lies my problem: I want to move to the same country to attend the university and be with my boyfriend, but this is a huge life decision! Is it the right thing to do? Am I wrong to leave my entire family behind? Although I do have the financial freedom to live halfway across the world if I want to, I find myself feeling guilty at the prospect of leaving. On one hand, I can live somewhere completely new, exciting, and challenging with the love of my life, but have to deal with very jealous siblings and miss my family back home. On the other hand, I can take it easy and continue studying at my small university in a town that I want to escape, and have family and friends fairly close, but probably end my relationship. What should I do?

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